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You never see an ugly chick with a hot guy but you always see an ugly guy with a hot chick. Thats a good indicator it's easier out there for dudes.
I have seen the attractive man and unattractive woman combo. I tell myself she has a fabulous personality and he is cool enough to appreciate it, or "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" or some crap like that. However, a part of me suspects she chased after him & wore him down. This is how women "work" to get a guy. I am a shy and passive woman and do not partake in such an activity (for better or worse...usually worse). I end up dating whoever makes the most effort
I have observed these women go about chasing after men:
First, they don't approach random guys in bars or wherever. Women like to study their prey for awhile & gather data (just go with me ), so it's usually a guy they come into contact with regularly (work, school, church, circle of friends). These are usually outgoing, assertive women and they will subtly flirt with the guy and find reasons to always talk to him and be near him. They'll joke insult and that sort of thing. Act really cutesy, laugh at every lame joke he makes. Pout of he talks to any other girl.
They never ask outright for a phone number or to go on a date. They use their feminine wiles to put the idea in the guy's head. Maybe they exchange numbers and the flirting goes to text now. Then, they begin "hanging out" alone (no official dates). The point at which she traps him is still a mystery to me. As an observer, I just know that it goes from the "hanging out" stage to being a public, full blown relationship at some point. It often seems the guy thinks much of this was his idea, but to her friends she was mapping it all out.
A part of me admires the women with this talent, and a part of me sees it as manipulation. In any case, they have a hot husband/boyfriend and I am single
I have seen the attractive man and unattractive woman combo. I tell myself she has a fabulous personality and he is cool enough to appreciate it, or "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" or some crap like that. However, a part of me suspects she chased after him & wore him down. This is how women "work" to get a guy. I am a shy and passive woman and do not partake in such an activity (for better or worse...usually worse). I end up dating whoever makes the most effort
I have observed these women go about chasing after men:
First, they don't approach random guys in bars or wherever. Women like to study their prey for awhile & gather data (just go with me ), so it's usually a guy they come into contact with regularly (work, school, church, circle of friends). These are usually outgoing, assertive women and they will subtly flirt with the guy and find reasons to always talk to him and be near him. They'll joke insult and that sort of thing. Act really cutesy, laugh at every lame joke he makes. Pout of he talks to any other girl.
They never ask outright for a phone number or to go on a date. They use their feminine wiles to put the idea in the guy's head. Maybe they exchange numbers and the flirting goes to text now. Then, they begin "hanging out" alone (no official dates). The point at which she traps him is still a mystery to me. As an observer, I just know that it goes from the "hanging out" stage to being a public, full blown relationship at some point. It often seems the guy thinks much of this was his idea, but to her friends she was mapping it all out.
A part of me admires the women with this talent, and a part of me sees it as manipulation. In any case, they have a hot husband/boyfriend and I am single
I can not agree with you more!
Those type of women are excellent game-players. They catch "better" guys in most cases. Probably, life is a game or dating is a game for sure.
Apparently being shy or straightforward or quick is not good for winning the game.
If that's the reason why you are single, then it is part of the reasons my 8 years marriage is stable
However, a part of me suspects she chased after him & wore him down. This is how women "work" to get a guy. I am a shy and passive woman and do not partake in such an activity
suuuuurrre you are
MEN BEHOLD THE TRUTH!!
women go about chasing after men:
First, they don't approach random guys in bars or wherever
[see dudes, if you are a medical doctor but you are by yourself --you're out of luck] .
Women like to study their prey for awhile & gather data (just go with me ), so it's usually a guy they come into contact with regularly (work, school, church, circle of friends). These are usually outgoing, assertive women and they will subtly flirt with the guy and find reasons to always talk to him and be near him. They'll joke insult and that sort of thing. Act really cutesy, laugh at every lame joke he makes.
They never ask outright for a phone number or to go on a date. They use their feminine wiles to put the idea in the guy's head. Maybe they exchange numbers and the flirting goes to text now. Then, they begin "hanging out" alone (no official dates). The point at which she traps him is still a mystery to me. As an observer, I just know that it goes from the "hanging out" stage to being a public, full blown relationship at some point. It often seems the guy thinks much of this was his idea, but to her friends she was mapping it all out.
If that's the reason why you are single, then it is part of the reasons my 8 years marriage is stable
The reason your marriage in stable is because you make your man happy.
OR,
you just simply control that poor guy[/quote]
I strongly believe that a successful long-lasting relationship comes from each individual's own success as a solid base. I do not mean you need a high education or tons of cash etc. I mean a harmony you have reached internally THEN externally.
Dating/mating is a game to a large degree you like or not. I know my strength and weakness. I certainly lack of the skills to control another individual especially a man. Frankly, I did not score the highest in the game but I enjoy peaceful life and hope you too.
I have seen the attractive man and unattractive woman combo
I have heard many women say before that Dolph Lundgren was dating beneath his league when he was with Grace Jones and that he could have done alot better than her. I have also heard the same thing when Don Johnson used to date Barbra Streisand.
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