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because im a loner, anti social, definitely NOT a people person/pleaser. i hate people telling me what to do. im a people demagnitizer(opposite of people magnet) i hate when you are just on a 2nd date and guys tell you you should hold hands or while on MY apartment, try to be intimate(YUCK!) when i barely know the guy and just go out with them for FREE food and movies ... what else...
That sounds like a guy that I dated...was hilarious...we held hands at the movies it was cute but I didn't feel like I wanted to make sweet sweat dripping love to him either.....
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Originally Posted by LBSer
because im a loner, anti social, definitely NOT a people person/pleaser. i hate people telling me what to do. im a people demagnitizer(opposite of people magnet) i hate when you are just on a 2nd date and guys tell you you should hold hands or while on MY apartment, try to be intimate(YUCK!) when i barely know the guy and just go out with them for FREE food and movies ... what else...
That sounds like a guy that I dated...was hilarious...we held hands at the movies it was cute but I didn't feel like I wanted to make sweet sweat dripping love to him either.....
I believe, the longer your alone, the more unlonely you become. You get to realize, you, are your own best friend, you become self sufficent, and do not have to depend on anyone else...and the longer your alone, the less you want to share, whatever time we have left, living someone else's idea of what marriage/life should be...most people do not know how to allow others.
But, if you sit and really evaluate, why your alone, and why you want to meet someone, you'll find or at least I did, that a lot of my desires to become one with someone were really co-dependency, not inter-dependency...I can go anywhere by myself now...and it's so wonderful...but then, I've never had a good man so, perhaps that is why my singleness is so seductive?
Creme
I agree with this. Because I'm a very introspective person, I mean someone who examines my life situation a lot and thinks about the world around me, I started thinking about all of the times I felt like it'd be cool to have a girlfriend or whatever. In every case, it was a moment of weakness. I never felt I wanted or needed a girlfriend when I was doing well with my career or with school or life in general. I was happy enough in what I was doing I didn't even think about it. So that led me to believe that after a while, I would use this information in a new way, if I ever felt like I wanted a girlfriend, I knew something else was going wrong, so I'd know to try to figure out what and fix it
I think the more you are single, the stronger you are, the more able you are to handle any problems that come your way on your own, and that trains you to be prepared for anything. Overall, I think people who cling on to others for support end up becoming unable to handle problems themselves.
I'm single because I choose to be. I used to think that I wanted a boyfriend but now I know that I just like the feeling of being free. NO having to stress about getting my boyfriend a present for his birthday, etc, not having to worry about if he is with some other chick. I'm happy by myself.
I believe, the longer your alone, the more unlonely you become. You get to realize, you, are your own best friend, you become self sufficent, and do not have to depend on anyone else...and the longer your alone, the less you want to share, whatever time we have left, living someone else's idea of what marriage/life should be...most people do not know how to allow others.
But, if you sit and really evaluate, why your alone, and why you want to meet someone, you'll find or at least I did, that a lot of my desires to become one with someone were really co-dependency, not inter-dependency...I can go anywhere by myself now...and it's so wonderful...but then, I've never had a good man so, perhaps that is why my singleness is so seductive?
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) i hate when you are just on a 2nd date and guys tell you you should hold hands or while on MY apartment, try to be intimate(YUCK!) when i barely know the guy and just go out with them for FREE food and movies 
... what else...
