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Does your crush like you back? Is he without a girlfriend or wife? You may want to hang out a lot less with these friends and find other activities to enjoy. As a married couple, you should only hang out with other married couples (if he's single). You're not teenagers anymore, so your hanging out activities should become more mature and with less drinking and such. Or let your husband still hang with the gang while you start to do other things. At 24-25, you should still be developing your mind, like taking an occasional adult ed class in a new work skill, a foreign language or even cooking. Be a volunteer with a charity. Maybe start working out at a gym or take up a sport.
But hanging out with the gang is not the same as you and your husband going out on a romantic date, just the two of you.
we have a small group of friends, mostly they are couples, but this guy is single, yeah. and does he like me back? yeah, that's where my feelings are getting mixed up. we aren't crazy partiers who get drunk at clubs with friends every weekend (ok, with the exception of every once in a while, like this halloween). as far as keeping my mind developing, i am finishing up my masters degree right now. my husband on the other hand has a high school education and still doesnt know what he wants to be when he grows up...which i wish i could help him with, but i can't. we do things on our own like movies and dinners out, nothing big. thanks again.
Crushes are normal and fine as long as you don't act on them.
Exactly..... I have little mini-crushes on a weekly basis.... So what???
It's the day that I ask one of them out for coffee or a drink that I've crossed the line.....
Pretty simple to me really...
For those that have a love that leaves no room to get a little hot and bothered by someone else??? Hey, more power to ya..... Doesn't compute with me.... I love my wife, but that doesn't mean an attractive woman with a little sass, sarcasm and a quick wit isn't capable of pushing my buttons.....
no kids, we're young, 24-25. i've had the crush for over a year, but it grew into a bigger crush more recently. he's in our circle of people we hang out with, i see him at least once a week. its a little complicated, i dont really want to share a ton here, but thanks for the opinions!
In light of the fact of not wanting to share.... I want to say a crush not acted upon OK. Been there etc. I believe when we mature we need to be just that, mature. It is ok to have those feelings but constant contact with that person can lead to a heart ache. A crush comes from a sexual infatuation. When you promised to love, honor and cherish keeping only unto him means just that. Turn away from the crush and focus on your marriage which is suppose to be a life long commitment.
How would you feel if your spouse was after some hot blonde her had a crush on? Would you care if you were betrayed? Be very careful you are on a slippery slope. As one who has been betayed too many times by men it hurts.
Just because you are married doesn't mean you went blind. So, I think it is normal to run into people you think are real attractive and just for a minute a weird thought may float through your head. However, if this is a person you are bumping into a whole lot and the thoughts are gaining a foot hold in your heart....you may need to take some time to get alone and sort it all out before any mistakes are make that you will regret later. I don't say this judgmental....but from past experience. It can creep up to bite you in the butt in a heartbeat and destroy your marriage.
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