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OK, without a background story here, do you think it is normal for a married person or person in a serious committed relationship (a few years at least) to develop a crush/feelings for someone else?
because i think that if two people are so in love, there would be no room for feelings for someone else, but i don't know, maybe it's a normal part of life...what do you think? do share...thanks!
OK, without a background story here, do you think it is normal for a married person or person in a serious committed relationship (a few years at least) to develop a crush/feelings for someone else?
because i think that if two people are so in love, there would be no room for feelings for someone else, but i don't know, maybe it's a normal part of life...what do you think? do share...thanks!
I'm responsible for my actions, so let it go.forget about it.
Seriously? Sure. Why not? But a crush is just a temporary physical infatuation. And you need to remember that that's all that it is. You haven't fallen out of true/mature love with your husband, but maybe it's a sign that you and your husband need to do a little importance couple maintenance to get those initial sparks back.
But no need to panic or to look for a divorce lawyer. All long term relationships need tweaking and maintenance. How long have you been married?
Seriously? Sure. Why not? But a crush is just a temporary physical infatuation. And you need to remember that that's all that it is. You haven't fallen out of true/mature love with your husband, but maybe it's a sign that you and your husband need to do a little importance couple maintenance to get those initial sparks back.
But no need to panic or to look for a divorce lawyer. All long term relationships need tweaking and maintenance. How long have you been married?
thanks. 2.5 years, but we've been together for 8. high school sweethearts, so he's really been my only relationship which is why i dont have anything to compare this to.
How and where do you know your crush? If you still love your husband and value your marriage, you should keep away from your crush. Instead, work on rekindling the romance with your husband. Once a week, go out a date with him. Do you have kids?
Meeting a new guy that sparks your interest is bound to trigger crush feelings. And this will happen if your marriage has become to comfortable and boring feeling. If there are kids involved, this will happen more often since at home, you are in the mom mode, and not feeling sexy.
How and where do you know your crush? If you still love your husband and value your marriage, you should keep away from your crush. Instead, work on rekindling the romance with your husband. Once a week, go out a date with him. Do you have kids?
Meeting a new guy that sparks your interest is bound to trigger crush feelings. And this will happen if your marriage has become to comfortable and boring feeling. If there are kids involved, this will happen more often since at home, you are in the mom mode, and not feeling sexy.
no kids, we're young, 24-25. i've had the crush for over a year, but it grew into a bigger crush more recently. he's in our circle of people we hang out with, i see him at least once a week. its a little complicated, i dont really want to share a ton here, but thanks for the opinions!
no kids, we're young, 24-25. i've had the crush for over a year, but it grew into a bigger crush more recently. he's in our circle of people we hang out with, i see him at least once a week. its a little complicated, i dont really want to share a ton here, but thanks for the opinions!
Does your crush like you back? Is he without a girlfriend or wife? You may want to hang out a lot less with these friends and find other activities to enjoy. As a married couple, you should only hang out with other married couples (if he's single). You're not teenagers anymore, so your hanging out activities should become more mature and with less drinking and such. Or let your husband still hang with the gang while you start to do other things. At 24-25, you should still be developing your mind, like taking an occasional adult ed class in a new work skill, a foreign language or even cooking. Be a volunteer with a charity. Maybe start working out at a gym or take up a sport.
But hanging out with the gang is not the same as you and your husband going out on a romantic date, just the two of you.
OK, without a background story here, do you think it is normal for a married person or person in a serious committed relationship (a few years at least) to develop a crush/feelings for someone else?
because i think that if two people are so in love, there would be no room for feelings for someone else, but i don't know, maybe it's a normal part of life...what do you think? do share...thanks!
I think it is normal as long as you don't act on it. One of the guys that Hubby works with flirts with me whenever I see him and I've always had sort of a school-girl crush on him because of it. It's nice to know that someone else out there thinks I am attractive.
I know that Hubby had a crush on a cute red head from work. As long as it doesn't interfere with your marriage/relationship, I don't see a problem. I think it is unrealistic to believe that even though you are "taken" you'll never find another person attractive.
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