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We knew by our third date (she was fairly sure by the end of our first), but it took awhile longer to work out how to be together since we lived far apart. We each found the other to be extremely compatible in the ways that really matter. I'd never been so sure of anyone previously, and neither had she. It was far more than mere chemistry (but there was a LOT of that, too), and has been proven by over 11 wonderful years.
I don't believe in the idea of "the one" but after a few months together I started to realize that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. It's like that quote from When Harry Met Sally, "when you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to start right now"
This question is to all the married folks out there. When you met your spouse, did you automatically know that he or she was the one? How soon after you met did you know? How did you know? Would like to hear some nice romantic stories.
I knew my current GF for about 6 yrs before we got together. We were good friends and then it happened. I didn't know she was "the one" for about 6 months. After that there's been no looking back for either of us.
Hey there Char... you stated you had been married before. For how long?
I had one of those "look in the eye" experiences. I knew I was home. I had felt so displaced in my life, like I was never really present, but just a participant. Perhaps it goes along with change in age, and in time of being ready & open for the right one - to choose to trust at all costs, experience all facets of life together.. no matter what. I know where my heart is. There is a pain still of letting a past relationship go, that which was destructive and done more out of duty & comittment rather than out of a participating and engaged heart.
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When you know you know
As someone else said earlier in the thread, if you are questioning if someone is the one then they probably aren't.
Well if you're talking about when you first meet them, then that's like love at first sight. In a lot of cases you don't know until well into the relationship.
When I met my husband I didn't immediately get the feeling that he's "the one." What I did feel though was that I could trust him. I was in a situation where I really shouldn't have trusted a strange young man--or at least that's what my family and friends would advise--but for some reason I got the feeling that he's ok.
The "he's the one" feeling didn't come suddenly, it came in bits and pieces. I can kind of mark it off in "quaters." First was the day we met and I trusted him; second was a few months after meeting when we talked for a long time on the phone one night and I was enamored just by the sound of his voice; third was after we knew each other for a little more than a year and he encouraged me to keep going to school even though I was depressed and I wanted to quit (it's a big deal for him to do that because he has a 10th-grade level education and he doesn't have any clue about college but he encouraged me anyway); fourth was two-and-a-half years AFTER we were married and I just felt so good because I thought about how he was starting to get along so well with my family and make a spot for himself in our country.
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