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I don't believe any of the women here who say looks don't matter. So I have to bring up this guy again. Remember how you all said you would not date this guy because he physically repulses you all.
Whatever happened to looks don't matter then ? So cut the b.s crap you all are just as shallow as men.
At least you've adimitted that you're shallow too. Are you trying to justify yourself by keep posting that picture?
I don't believe any of the women here who say looks don't matter. So I have to bring up this guy again. Remember how you all said you would not date this guy because he physically repulses you all.
Whatever happened to looks don't matter then ? So cut the b.s crap you all are just as shallow as men.
I'm all good with being that shallow. And can we get a warning or something next time? One pic posting was more than enough!
I think it's looks that initially attracts you to a person. But I have to say I would prefer to be around fun and upbeat people regardless of looks any day. I like to smile and if you are "hot" but you bring me down "you're toast".
I find a lot of really nice and decent people on this forum and I have no idea what they look like and it doesn't matter to me.
I want to know from the people on this forum about something that I seem to notice with others. I know a lot of people of the opposite sex sometimes to be very compadible with one another yet there seems to be hesitation on of the people, usually the one who is considered "better looking."
Just out of curiousity: How important should looks be when u want to be with somebody? I know everyone says that were are supposed to love other people regardless of appearance, but don't looks dictate a big part of what makes other people attractive. I mean how are you suppose to kiss someone that you don't think is attractive.
Posting blind, without having read the other replies:
We ALL emphasize looks, only to different extents. But in my case, it goes beyond just how pretty a girl is or isn't.
In the not-too-distant past, I met a girl who was of decent height, slender, and had good skin. But there was something about her face that just ... well, I didn't like it. She was not ugly, by the way... she had good skin as I said and pretty eyes.
I had seen her picture before we met, and she looked like a "tough" girl. But when I say tough, I don't mean thuggish or ghetto. While attractive, there was a certain roughness to her aura that I couldn't quite describe but which I noticed and which made me feel a bit uncomfortable.
I've dated a lot of women and they all had, of course, different faces and different auras, but if there was one thing in common amongst those whose looks I "liked," it was that they had a pleasant/"smooth" aura about them. This girl didn't have that.
In addition, while we were talking, she would often make this certain facial expression which annoyed the hell out of me. It's hard to describe... it was like "" with a mix of unbelief, where her eyes would squint. I just couldn't stomach seeing that look on her face, and I know that it was something that I would never grow to like were I to date her.
Now I'm dating a girl who is quite feminine and attractive... when she doesn't smile, she looks rather serious, but she does have a "soft" enough aura, and the overall package is way more than sufficient for my standards (and if I told you folks I don't have certain expectations, I'd be a stinking liar.).
It's obvious that you have to think that the person you are with is attractive to be able to have a complete relationship with them, but looks definitely are not everything.
You'd be amazed how much more attractive a person becomes as you get to know them better. I have met guys that at first glance, I would never consider attractive but after getting to know them, I have found that the power of their personality allowed me to see attractive qualities I didn't notice before.
Back to the wrestler example. Several women said that if they had a chance to get to know him, possibly, but knee jerk is "No". This guy also has several very unattractive physical qualities that would make it very difficult to want to get to know him.
I think and have always thought this, that people who say "looks are not important to me, etc..." are flat out liars BUT they may not know they are lying.
Look, you could have a phone relationship with someone for months, fall in love with the person you have been speaking to based on their personality - you may finally meet face to face and find out the person at the other end of the phone is a 800 lbs behemoth of a person, are you really going to tell me that you are going to continue having a serious relationship? What if the person was just really, really ugly - you can lose weight but you can't make something good looking that just has not hope of being that way. Sooo... I do think looks are somewhat important. I know that having somewhat of good looks has it's benefits. I think that even if a person according to others isn't traditionally good looking, to YOU they have to be attractive in some way. I do not think that everyone who is good looking is better - in fact, looks fade and there better be somthing really good underneath. I think that I'm average looking, I think my fiance is really good looking. But we both have really good personalities too so when the looks are gone, there is definitely something there.
I want to know from the people on this forum about something that I seem to notice with others. I know a lot of people of the opposite sex sometimes to be very compadible with one another yet there seems to be hesitation on of the people, usually the one who is considered "better looking."
Just out of curiousity: How important should looks be when u want to be with somebody? I know everyone says that were are supposed to love other people regardless of appearance, but don't looks dictate a big part of what makes other people attractive. I mean how are you suppose to kiss someone that you don't think is attractive.
Looks do matter, of course they matter.....you have to be attracted to somone in order to maintain that kind of relationship......however, personality can greatly enhance looks.......say you have a decent looking guy....if he's confident and funny and sweet and good in bed ......he totally has potential to be classified as a hottie
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" with a mix of unbelief, where her eyes would squint. I just couldn't stomach seeing that look on her face, and I know that it was something that I would never grow to like were I to date her.
......he totally has potential to be classified as a hottie 
