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I'm talking about before either of you open your mouth. Do you know how to read body language and eyes so you know when a woman is asking you to approach her?
I've seen a ton of comments recently that suggest a lot of guys on this forum have no idea when a woman is throwing off her "I want you to come over here" signals, so they just randomly hit on women and hope for the best.
If you believe that approaching women is a totally random numbers game please share your experiences. Perhaps the rest of us can help you out and make life a little better for everyone (you won't have to fear rejection so much, and the ladies won't have to worry about getting so many unwanted advances).
I'm talking about before either of you open your mouth. Do you know how to read body language and eyes so you know when a woman is asking you to approach her?
I've seen a ton of comments recently that suggest a lot of guys on this forum have no idea when a woman is throwing off her "I want you to come over here" signals, so they just randomly hit on women and hope for the best.
If you believe that approaching women is a totally random numbers game please share your experiences. Perhaps the rest of us can help you out and make life a little better for everyone (you won't have to fear rejection so much, and the ladies won't have to worry about getting so many unwanted advances).
Yes and no, if there is eye contact with a smile for more than a glance when your away from each other. Fairly good indicator, her making excuses to touch your hand, arm or the like in conversation, but that's obviously not in the pre-approach phase.
You also have to figure if it's a gathering, bar, whatever, that they might have the usual mindset for both sexes, that while they'd like someone they might just be there to "see what comes up" and aren't actively looking around and such, or their social skills might be lacking in body signals and the like. Seen that as well. So in many cases, not trying to find out isn't the best move either.
So, sorry, I see no clear-cut, "this or that equates to this" answer. It's subjective, and dependent on the situation, and individuality of the woman involved.
Last edited by Waynec613; 05-26-2009 at 12:35 PM..
Im clueless i jsut figure if i approach a women i dont know and say something even small talk or ask her a simple harmless question if theres a smile and decent response theres at least a shot if there an apathetic look and no smile or anything i figure theres no physical attraction to you on her part..
It is very easy to read body language once a conversation has started. Reading body language prior to approaching is a great deal more difficult.
Generally, if she is facing you, making eye contact with you, smiling at you, coming to sit within close proximity to you, or generally making it easier for you to talk to her, then these are all positive signs. In general, you should be able to tell by your peripheral vision whether or not someone keeps checking you out.
The most common I come across is for a woman to come sit near you - say in a bar, for example - and start a loud (often inane) conversation with the bartender, with the intent that you'll interject. Obviously every situation is different and subjective, but at least in my world, this is the closest thing to a "move" that a nondesperate woman will make.
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lacking in body signals and the like. Seen that as well.
Yup seen that too, although you can still usually tell by the eyes. Both the amount she looks at you and the way she looks at you. Even a very shy woman will normally look at you a lot if she likes you. If she's not looking at you at all then she's either not interested, feigning disinterest (playing a game), or she's extremely self-conscious about how it would look to others.
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if she is facing you, making eye contact with you, smiling at you
This is a great indicator of an outgoing woman, especially the first part about facing you, this typically shows she's confident and open to being approached. The part you need to be careful of is misinterpreting a friendly extrovert who's open to friendship (but only friendship) as someone who's attracted to you.
If on the other hand a woman is much more discreet in her glances, if she's looking over her shoulder rather than facing toward you, if she looks at you a lot but doesn't smile until you smile or sometimes even when you smile. These indicate she's more subtle and perhaps shy too. You need to be careful not to dismiss this as disinterest.
Another type of shy girl is one who is also socially awkward. One example is if you sense that she tenses up when you smile but she keeps looking at you, she's probably feeling awkward like: "He just looked at me! Oh no! What do I do?!?"
LOL although if she tenses up and looks away when you smile. She probably finds you creepy.
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