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I was thinking about this on the way to work this morning, hoping I had won the megamillions.
I wondered if I won the lottery, would my husband of 29 years and I still stay married, since we'd have an a** load of money and wouldn't worry about the petty dividing up of what we have and could go our own ways in comfort.
I'm happy to say yes, I'd still want to be married to him.
I don't think many would know until it happened. I would really think that couples, like you, who have been married many years and have families, know that family comes before any amount of money.
I think it would actually improve things for us. For example, he is very conservative and 17 years older than me. In his mind, I should be driving around in a station wagon - because a station wagon is what HE likes. He always tells me he will get me a new car (of his choosing) if I will agree to sell the car I drive now. I tell him "no thanks" because he knows I am holding out for something I like and really want - which is NOT a station wagon. If we hit some lottery, there is no question that I am going to buy the car I want - and he can go out and buy any station wagon he wants. This is just one of many, many examples I could tell you guys about.
I think life would be easier, but I do not think any problems that may be there would go away due to the new found wealth, just like the good things would not change.
Now, things may be heightened, I suppose.
We may see the bad things as even worse, or not so bad.
The good things may be even better, or we might think that somehow, they could are worse.
I do not really think there is any way of knowing.
Money is a strange entity. We never know what it will do to a situation until it smacks us in the face.
I never thought money would change my family. I thought nothing could come between us, especially not money.
When my mother died and left me her life insurance, the siblings became very upset and greedy.
The proceeds of the house were split equally. They all came and took things from the house like savages.
I got the check and they were all asking if it had come yet. Wanting it, even though it was left to me. My mother could have named each of us in that policy, but she did not.
I am understanding there were reasons for her actions, now as I am older and looking at life differently.
Then I just wanted us all to get along. I did not want any grief, no strife.
I had just lost my mother who I had taken care of for many months and I did not want my family falling apart, but it did.
Money is evil.
Sitting at home at my desk, with a newly opened checking accounts and only the started checks it came with, I had my calculator out and I divided the 50k equally five ways, minus my paying off her funeral with some of it.
I made a check out to each of the siblings and one to myself.
There are five of us and there was three cents left over.
I have not looked back and I do not regret what I did that day.
I did it for the sake of my family and I did not let money take over my life as they had.
I let it go, and it is gone. Some call me stupid over that to this day.
Life choices, that is all it is.
Right now, I have nothing, things could have been different, I know this.
Do I care? Nope. Sure don't.
money comes. Money goes. It does not rule my life.
Not much. Pay everything off, build a place on the coast, spend time with family...
Oh yeah, I'd have a private room with 100,000 $1 dollar bills and every so often I'd go in, scream like a toddler and throw money up in the air.
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