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Location: Prescott Valley, Az (unfortunately still here)
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To me, shallow means someone who's only interested in the physical attributes of someone and only cares and thinks that their opinion is the ONLY right opinion. Self-centeredness is shallow behavior also. Also treating someone like they are stupid, dumb, or like a bimbo, is very shallow behavior too (I've been treated like this in the past by 3 separate men).
Shallow, like 'shallow waters' meaning you are not 'deep' and are superficial.
A guy I was close to in college is just like this. He's a hardworking family man and he's not a reprehensible individual. He's just very shallow in his conversations. No depth at all. This is one of the key reasons I've distanced myself away from him in recent time (and other people from school as well). There were other things about him that made me realize I was best off not being close to him, but his shallowness was a major reason. He just can't hold a deep conversation with anybody about anything.
Defining shallow is difficult because you have to distinguish the difference between shallow and preferences. Everyone has preferences and having preferences is not neccesarily shallow by itself. I think that when people take there preferences to far and they become unrealistic is when it is shallow. Like I prefer brunettes to blonde girls. It is not that I think blondes are ugly I just like darker hair. I do not consider it shallow because I am not totaly closed to dating a blondes.
Is it someone that is only concerned with physical attributes or could it be someone incapable of any sort of human depth as far as whats important in life?
Have you ever known anyone for years that never shared anything beyond a shared interest? I guess what I'm asking is have you ever enjoyed someones company enough to want to get to know them better only to find they can't go there?
HAHAHAHA!!! YES!!!
dixie cup.
...or when they say something they think is profound and you just look at them without turning your head. Just your eyes move to fix on them a second to see if they are for real. Yeah. Hilarious.
Is it someone that is only concerned with physical attributes or could it be someone incapable of any sort of human depth as far as whats important in life?
Have you ever known anyone for years that never shared anything beyond a shared interest? I guess what I'm asking is have you ever enjoyed someones company enough to want to get to know them better only to find they can't go there?
My first husband was shallow for sure. He wanted me to be a certain weight, look a certain way, never cut my hair and never, not ever go without makeup. He was on my tail end constantly to look good for HIM so his buddies could ooooh and ahhh over his trophy wife. Was he all that and a bag of chips? NO, NO, NO!! He was good looking but an alcoholic who did drugs, sold drugs plus with all the harrassment I got from him to look good, he chased other women anyhow and scored probably 5 times in 11 years. The last time he scored, I left him...took my son and what I could stuff in my beat up old car and RAN. It took me a very long time to get over the emotional damage his shallowness caused.
Women can be shallow as well; this is not just a man thing. My niece would never not ever go out with anyone that wasn't Spanish, tall, dark and handsome. She met this guy recently who is about as tall as her, has a Sean Penn look to him and adores her. She gave him a chance, got rid of her shallow attitude and now they are talking permanent; buying a house, etc. She is so in love. Being able to go beyond a person's physical appearance and accepting who they are is learning to live as the good Lord wanted us to by treating others as we would want to be treated.
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