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Since I have a degree in Behavorial Sciences (the study of Psychology and Sociology) and have worked as a relationship counselor, I would say it's safe for me to give a clinical answer to help this person resolve his marriage.
your wife is a sourpuss. not your fault you already said its not about you yes?
you are keeping your vows, this makes you a man of integrity. she is not.
I have been married 13 years now and the marriage started out very good and continued for I would say five years. She claims I have turned her down many times and have not met her physical needs.
She now blames me for the way she is (angry, bitter, demanding, insecure) but I continue to tell her I do not have the power to change people. I have watched her over the years remove people from her life that wronged her or made her angry. I become concerned if I wronged her or become less than perfect - I was in trouble and she would shut herself down to me and become numb - no feelings, no communication, like turning off a faucet so to speak. I am not sure what to - she has turned off her feelings and does not re pond to anything. I find it difficult to give physical and love to someone that is bitter and angry with me. Seems to me forgiveness would be the first step, and I believe wife does not know what it means to forgive or steps to forgiveness. Help!!
This is easy! You're in love with what you think your wife is, not what she really is. A cold hearted manipulator who mentally "kills" people when she has no more use for them. And guess what..you're aparently dead to her. Like you've seen her do to others, except you figured YOU could overcome it in your awesomeness. You even described youself as becoming perfect to appease her. That means you feel you succeeded at some points in becoming Jesus, or god...YOU DIDN'T! Go back to the idea you are a powerless human over something like this! Let her go! Sorry.
Since I have a degree in Behavorial Sciences (the study of Psychology and Sociology) and have worked as a relationship counselor, I would say it's safe for me to give a clinical answer to help this person resolve his marriage.
But I wouldn't go so far as to say guru.
That's cool. I wanted to be into that... Now I just post. Kinda like, "I'm not into psychology but I play some on CD.
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