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Okay here is the problem will try to make it as short as possible.
About 2 years ago I met a girl, she was 20 I was 18. We took things slow and one night she asked me how many people I have slept with. Being a guy I lied and just said the number 3 coming to my mind with the amount of girls i have "slept" with but not had sex with. Thinking that she had at least had to have slept with her boyfriend of 3 years which she broke up with a year before. Well she then told me she was a virgin. In reality I was a virgin too. 8 months later we are in a commited relationship and have sex. and now about 14 months later she still thinks I had slept with 3 other girls. I have lied to her multiples times when she has asked where they girlfriends etc..
So for some reason it just came to my head that I should tell her, I been dating her for almost two years now. I am afriad its too late to tell the truth. I wanted to earlier but being a guy and just immature I was just afriad to tell her the truth.
So should I? Is it an important detail? Will she be furious with me?
Yeh you should tell her and yeh..she may be ticked and wonder what else you lie about. So you better come clean about all else. And don't be a sissy and afraid to say you were embarrassed. A lot of guys seem embarrassed of that.
Okay here is the problem will try to make it as short as possible.
About 2 years ago I met a girl, she was 20 I was 18. We took things slow and one night she asked me how many people I have slept with. Being a guy I lied and just said the number 3 coming to my mind with the amount of girls i have "slept" with but not had sex with. Thinking that she had at least had to have slept with her boyfriend of 3 years which she broke up with a year before. Well she then told me she was a virgin. In reality I was a virgin too. 8 months later we are in a commited relationship and have sex. and now about 14 months later she still thinks I had slept with 3 other girls. I have lied to her multiples times when she has asked where they girlfriends etc..
So for some reason it just came to my head that I should tell her, I been dating her for almost two years now. I am afriad its too late to tell the truth. I wanted to earlier but being a guy and just immature I was just afriad to tell her the truth.
So should I? Is it an important detail? Will she be furious with me?
thanks for the advice.
I think you should come clean. Expect a wrath like no other though....
But I think you should explain why you lied. Because you thought she did the freaky with her ex of 3 years, you felt embarrassed to say that you were a virgin and lied about it. Make sure to not have anything hot and liquid or metallic and solid around when you tell her this as a precaution
You will get smacked around a bit for lying...but I'm pretty sure she'll be relieved to hear that you didn't have any other exes...
I think you should tell her too. She may be mad b/c you lied to her, but if you make her understand it was b/c you felt embarrassed, hopefully she'll understand. And let her realize too that this makes her your "one and only", just like she is for you, and that will make it more special b/t you two.
Okay here is the problem will try to make it as short as possible.
About 2 years ago I met a girl, she was 20 I was 18. We took things slow and one night she asked me how many people I have slept with. Being a guy I lied and just said the number 3 coming to my mind with the amount of girls i have "slept" with but not had sex with. Thinking that she had at least had to have slept with her boyfriend of 3 years which she broke up with a year before. Well she then told me she was a virgin. In reality I was a virgin too. 8 months later we are in a commited relationship and have sex. and now about 14 months later she still thinks I had slept with 3 other girls. I have lied to her multiples times when she has asked where they girlfriends etc..
So for some reason it just came to my head that I should tell her, I been dating her for almost two years now. I am afriad its too late to tell the truth. I wanted to earlier but being a guy and just immature I was just afriad to tell her the truth.
So should I? Is it an important detail? Will she be furious with me?
thanks for the advice.
Assuming your relationship is solid and going places then the truth is the only thing you tell each other no matter what. Lies or withholding is a sand castle that will wash a good relationship away.
There is one other little understood point here......
the fact that both of you were virgins at the start is a very good thing because as long as you stay committed to each other neither of you will ever wonder if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. A very good glue to hold a relationship together.
I think you should tell her too. She may be mad b/c you lied to her, but if you make her understand it was b/c you felt embarrassed, hopefully she'll understand. And let her realize too that this makes her your "one and only", just like she is for you, and that will make it more special b/t you two.
I agree with everyone. Just tell her. She may get upset, but it's not a major dealbreaker IMO.
P.S. - The longer you wait to tell her, the worse the lie becomes.
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