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I haven't heard it gender specifically. I have heard, "It is better to be with someone who loves you more than you love them."
Makes sense in a way I guess. Although it is not easy to really determine who loves who more. It may start out one way then feelings may decrease or increase.
I have been in a situation like that. It did make it easier in a sense to be with someone who has stronger feelings because I didn't have to work as hard to maintain it. He was really head over heels. I found myself not caring if I returned his calls because I knew he would not stay angry at me (or even get angry at times he had every right to do so) because he felt so strongly about me. I cared about him, but honestly I didn't care about the relationship much. It gave me almost all the power- if he threatened to leave, I'd tell him "Ok, don't call me anymore". Then he would freak out and say he didn't mean that. It is obvious why a self-centered type would flourish in that kind of relationship. I'm not like that, so I didn't like it at all and felt bad about the whole thing.
Turn it around. Do you think the following is real, healpful, meaningful advice for women? "A relationship can only work if you love him more than he loves you."
Nonsense.
I've heard, "You need be with a man who loves you more than you love him." I can see where I'd benefit from that, but what about him? Doesn't seem fair.
Ive heard allot of people here say this can you explain why you feel this is true??
Really?
I'm in one of those relationships. Turns out he's leaving me for some woman he reconnected with online. He's leaving me and my son after six years together to move off to England to be with her. I don't think they've seen each other in about 30 years--boy is she in for a surprise.
I've loved him since I was 19 years old (I'm 48 now). He found me just the same way--reconnecting after years apart. It's obvious who loves who the most--the one that's been lied to and betrayed.
I'm voting for equality in love. Otherwise it's a completely unlevel playing field.
Ive heard allot of people here say this can you explain why you feel this is true??
I do not agree. I love my husband so much. We have a deep mutual love that encompasses respect, generosity, passion, awe and numerous emotions that are introduced and awakened each and every day.
We are each fair, compassionate and loving towards each other.
We acknowledge each others needs, wants and dreams.
I feel very sorry for anyone who seeks a mate who "loves them more"...
That speaks volumes for that person's maturity or lack there of.
i dont know why but it works. old timers say it i eventually became an old timer and its true. rigorous attempts were made by me to disprove it, suffering proved my efforts were in vain.
I do not agree. I love my husband so much. We have a deep mutual love that encompasses respect, generosity, passion, awe and numerous emotions that are introduced and awakened each and every day.
We are each fair, compassionate and loving towards each other.
We acknowledge each others needs, wants and dreams.
I feel very sorry for anyone who seeks a mate who "loves them more"...
That speaks volumes for that person's maturity or lack there of.
There's a Sex and the City episode where Carrie's friend tells her that "it's better to marry someone that loves you more than you love them." Eh, I'd rather be alone than settle for some guy that I only like while he is crazy about me.
I've been in a relationship where my feelings were stronger than his.. And I completely kept my options open. I would have dropped him in a second if I'd found someone that reciprocated my feelings.
"Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated!"
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