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So I (mid 20s) went on a first date with this girl almost two years ago. It went great, and we agreed to go out again a couple of weeks later after she got back from her hometown. But she found out that her "friend" was moving back to the area, and cut me loose (in a respectful and kind way) before we could meet again because she was hoping to start something with him.
I haven't thought about her since then, but I do remember her because it was one of the best first date conversations I've ever had.
Fast forward to today. I decided to try Facebook dating, and saw that she has a profile. Clearly things with her friend didn't work out, since Facebook dating is new this year. I sent her a like with no response as of yet. I still have her number and am toying with the idea of texting her.
Questions:
1. For women who have tried Facebook dating: do you typically look at all of the guys who liked you, or just swipe and only look at the profiles you've matched with?
2. Would it be weird or creepy for me to text her saying that I saw her profile and enjoyed meeting her before? She was definitely interested then, but I'm under no illusion that she would remember much about me now or still have my number in her phone. Another option would be looking up her actual Facebook page (we aren't friends) and messaging her there. I accept that the odds may be low; I just don't want to make her uncomfortable.
So I (mid 20s) went on a first date with this girl almost two years ago. It went great, and we agreed to go out again a couple of weeks later after she got back from her hometown. But she found out that her "friend" was moving back to the area, and cut me loose (in a respectful and kind way) before we could meet again because she was hoping to start something with him.
I haven't thought about her since then, but I do remember her because it was one of the best first date conversations I've ever had.
Fast forward to today. I decided to try Facebook dating, and saw that she has a profile. Clearly things with her friend didn't work out, since Facebook dating is new this year. I sent her a like with no response as of yet. I still have her number and am toying with the idea of texting her.
Questions:
1. For women who have tried Facebook dating: do you typically look at all of the guys who liked you, or just swipe and only look at the profiles you've matched with?
2. Would it be weird or creepy for me to text her saying that I saw her profile and enjoyed meeting her before? She was definitely interested then, but I'm under no illusion that she would remember much about me now or still have my number in her phone. Another option would be looking up her actual Facebook page (we aren't friends) and messaging her there. I accept that the odds may be low; I just don't want to make her uncomfortable.
Thanks
She won't even remember you. 2 years is a long time when you're in your early 20s. She may have just made up the - other guy - story, to politely get rid of you.
You only had one date, one in person conversation. She blew you off after that.
If you contact her.... now??? She will think stalker, creepy.... desperate?
Sorry, but you need to move on. Good luck, hope you find someone new with the Facebook dating.
She won't even remember you. 2 years is a long time when you're in your early 20s. She may have just made up the - other guy - story, to politely get rid of you.
You only had one date, one in person conversation. She blew you off after that.
If you contact her.... now??? She will think stalker, creepy.... desperate?
Sorry, but you need to move on. Good luck, hope you find someone new with the Facebook dating.
After 2 years, she would not think of him as a "creepy" or a "stalker", esp. since you mentioned she would have forgotten about him...so, it's starting fresh once again.
After 2 years, she would not think of him as a "creepy" or a "stalker", esp. since you mentioned she would have forgotten about him...so, it's starting fresh once again.
Once she remembers who he is, I would think she would feel that way about him. Maybe that's just me though (female here). I'm trying to save OP from embarrassing himself to her. It was only ONE date, one conversation. Then she told him she's pursuing another guy (whether that was an excuse or not). She has no interest in him, obviously.
OP - Think about it. She has been on Facebook dating this year. Soooo, wouldn't she *maybe* have contacted you, or your FB page, Liked something of yours, or done anything at all... if she had the slightest interest or memory of you? Now that she's been single for the last year?
I think you guys are being a bit harsh. Things happen. Maybe she is embarrassed about how things went down, so she hasn't reached out to him. I had a situation like that when I was in college. Then, three years later, I bumped into her at a bookstore. We started talking and then dated for six great months before she moved away for graduate school.
OP, why don't you try an intermediate step? Just reach out and say, 'Hello,' and ask if she's doing well. If she responds in a positive way, then fantastic. If she doesn't, you then have your answer.
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So I (mid 20s) went on a first date with this girl almost two years ago. It went great, and we agreed to go out again a couple of weeks later after she got back from her hometown. But she found out that her "friend" was moving back to the area, and cut me loose (in a respectful and kind way) before we could meet again because she was hoping to start something with him.
I haven't thought about her since then, but I do remember her because it was one of the best first date conversations I've ever had.
Fast forward to today. I decided to try Facebook dating, and saw that she has a profile. Clearly things with her friend didn't work out, since Facebook dating is new this year. I sent her a like with no response as of yet. I still have her number and am toying with the idea of texting her.
Questions:
1. For women who have tried Facebook dating: do you typically look at all of the guys who liked you, or just swipe and only look at the profiles you've matched with?
2. Would it be weird or creepy for me to text her saying that I saw her profile and enjoyed meeting her before? She was definitely interested then, but I'm under no illusion that she would remember much about me now or still have my number in her phone. Another option would be looking up her actual Facebook page (we aren't friends) and messaging her there. I accept that the odds may be low; I just don't want to make her uncomfortable.
Thanks
Personally, if she doesn't respond to the Facebook dating request, I'd leave this one alone. She had her say the first time and rejected you. I don't think she'd be interested in going down that road again since she has declined previously. The ball is in her court now, leave it there if she doesn't pick it up.
I think you guys are being a bit harsh. Things happen. Maybe she is embarrassed about how things went down, so she hasn't reached out to him. I had a situation like that when I was in college. Then, three years later, I bumped into her at a bookstore. We started talking and then dated for six great months before she moved away for graduate school.
OP, why don't you try an intermediate step? Just reach out and say, 'Hello,' and ask if she's doing well. If she responds in a positive way, then fantastic. If she doesn't, you then have your answer.
In your situation, was it only one previous date? And then you bumped into her 3 years later?
Sure, it would be fine if OP bumps into this girl in real life, he can say Hi, ask her out, ask her to bear his children, whatever he wants to say.... It is completely different when you are reaching out online. And after only a brief, previous one time interaction.
They only had one date. And she had no more interest. Not talking about a previous longer term dating situation.
They only had one date. And she had no more interest. Not talking about a previous longer term dating situation.
Yep, and who knows if the "old flame" she was trying to reconnect with was real or just an excuse to not see the OP anymore.
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It is completely different when you are reaching out online. And after only a brief, previous one time interaction.
