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Yes, I did it. And I've thought often about how I managed it as well as I did. I wouldn't call it "easy"...but I was pretty much over the angst within 2 days. I think that in my case, I just wasn't 100%. I certainly loved him, but I also knew that it was not
right for me. Maybe my brain just took over.
LOL...I thin that's what happens to me too at times.
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to be in love with someone and yet have the ability to easily walk away from them is they were to betray or hurt you? Does that mean you never really loved them from the start or could it mean that you're just that resilient?
It's VERY possible for me and I have done it more than once...it bothered me pretty bad,but THEY never knew it did.
I have walked away from someone I loved very much. Leaving him did not stop me from loving him, nor did I want it to.
It just stopped me from setting myself up for more hurt.
I have also walked away from someone not because of betrayal or hurt; but because I knew staying would eventually lead to betrayal by one (or both) of us.
If your OP comes from a personal struggle you are having; hopefully you will remember to love yourself as well as the one in question.
I may not be able to forget someone's transgressions; but I'm pretty good at forgiving them. And forgiving doesn't necessarily mean staying.
It really depends on the circumstances that led you to this quandary.
I have walked away from someone I loved very much. Leaving him did not stop me from loving him, nor did I want it to.
It just stopped me from setting myself up for more hurt.
I have also walked away from someone not because of betrayal or hurt; but because I knew staying would eventually lead to betrayal by one (or both) of us.
If your OP comes from a personal struggle you are having; hopefully you will remember to love yourself as well as the one in question.
I may not be able to forget someone's transgressions; but I'm pretty good at forgiving them. And forgiving doesn't necessarily mean staying.
It really depends on the circumstances that led you to this quandary.
to be in love with someone and yet have the ability to easily walk away from them is they were to betray or hurt you? Does that mean you never really loved them from the start or could it mean that you're just that resilient?
It COULD just mean that you are emotionally healthy enough to understand you are no doormat and deserve better treatment
You asked about walking away from someone you love when they betray or hurt you and does it mean that perhaps you didn't love them or that you are resiliant. Are you sure you care not concerned that you are unfeeling? My heart aches when I read this type of a post because you learn all about these types of feelings and it all happens with time. I have a feeling you are younger than my 61 years and perhaps haven't gone through a whole lot...I could be wrong but don't think so.
When you walk away from someone who has betrayed or hurt you it means you have learned how to love yourself and respect yourself with the added bonus of knowing how to take care of your emotions. Good for you. Believe it or not, there are people out there who are not hell bent to hurt you, betray you or use you. It does take some of us a very long time to figure that one out. I know it took me some time to learn that I did not need a man to validate who I was as a woman. When I did finally "get it"...I met my second husband who unfortunately passed away young and then I met my wonderful husband I have now.
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