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This is for the ladies. When you meet another woman, what are some of the things that run through your mind/that you consciously or subconsciously judge her on? For instance, her demeanor, her appearance, her weight, her style of dress, her marriage status, etc.
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Have you ever unfairly stereotyped a woman you just met only to have that stereotype either confirmed or not confirmed once you got to know her a little better? What are some qualities/characteristics about another woman that would make you feel threatened or insecure based on your own psychological hang-ups?
I might add do you think of whether associating with this woman might have an effect on your relationships with or ability to attract men. Do you consider whether she appears to be a good prospect.
I used to think I might not like someone, and after a while they turned out to be the one I liked most. Now that I am older (and wiser, hopefully), I take people at face value. I don't like phonies, and I don't have rapport with people who lack warmth.
There was a young girl that visited our office from HQ. She was wearing a short, tight dress and very high sandals. I was working at a manufacturing facility at the time. Yes, we were financial professionals and not the actual skilled laborers, but it was still inappropriate to dress this way. I initially thought very little of her.
We worked closely together on several projects and I was lucky enough to get to know her. She eventually learned how to dress professionally and gained everyone's respect as well as mine. Neither of us work for that company any longer, but we still keep in touch.
There was a young girl that visited our office from HQ. She was wearing a short, tight dress and very high sandals. I was working at a manufacturing facility at the time. Yes, we were financial professionals and not the actual skilled laborers, but it was still inappropriate to dress this way. I initially thought very little of her.
We worked closely together on several projects and I was lucky enough to get to know her. She eventually learned how to dress professionally and gained everyone's respect as well as mine. Neither of us work for that company any longer, but we still keep in touch.
You wouldn't have any PICS of this young girl, would you?
I'm going to sound like a total biaaaaatch here, but if the shoe fits ...
I first look at the total package and whether or not she presents herself well. Then I assess whether she is any competition.
If she is my physical and/or intellectual inferior, she is not a threat. If I do consider her to be competition, then I start nit-picking to find things wrong with her. It usually takes me no more than a minute to come up with a fairly comprehensive list of shortcomings, e.g., her hair, her shoes, her boobs, her ass, her big ankles, her voice, her laugh, her ugly makeup, etc. etc.
And I think all women do this ... we just don't like to admit it.
I'm going to sound like a total biaaaaatch here, but if the shoe fits ...
I first look at the total package and whether or not she presents herself well. Then I assess whether she is any competition.
If she is my physical and/or intellectual inferior, she is not a threat. If I do consider her to be competition, then I start nit-picking to find things wrong with her. It usually takes me no more than a minute to come up with a fairly comprehensive list of shortcomings, e.g., her hair, her shoes, her boobs, her ass, her big ankles, her voice, her laugh, her ugly makeup, etc. etc.
And I think all women do this ... we just don't like to admit it.
Maybe at first, but then we befriend them and forget about that stuff we thought and pretend that we're angels.
I'm going to sound like a total biaaaaatch here, but if the shoe fits ...
I first look at the total package and whether or not she presents herself well. Then I assess whether she is any competition.
If she is my physical and/or intellectual inferior, she is not a threat. If I do consider her to be competition, then I start nit-picking to find things wrong with her. It usually takes me no more than a minute to come up with a fairly comprehensive list of shortcomings, e.g., her hair, her shoes, her boobs, her ass, her big ankles, her voice, her laugh, her ugly makeup, etc. etc.
And I think all women do this ... we just don't like to admit it.
Geez, I like to think I am a LITTLE more evolved than that.
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), I take people at face value. I don't like phonies, and I don't have rapport with people who lack warmth.
