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Do you still try to keep yourself looking good to impress your s/o, or have you given up, and figured, "ooh what the hell, we going to die togiether, i have nobody to impress"?
I think my motivation is more to look and mainly feel healthy and good about myself. But I definitely make even more of an effort because I want him to still find me sexy and attractive.
I wouldn't call it "pressure," but yeah, I try to look decent for my wife. On our days off, I'll get up and take a shower and shave, etc., while the coffee's brewing, then go back to bed smelling all pretty and stuff. And some days I'll kick around in my home office or work in the yard or garage, then take the shower and shave before my wife gets home from work. I want to at least look kissable when she walks through the door.
Yeah, I do. He thinks I'm hot stuff when I roll out of bed in the morning, so I feel like I owe it to him to doll myself up just because he doesn't need me to. He likes me just the way I am, so I should be courteous enough to take the extra effort.
Do you still try to keep yourself looking good to impress your s/o, or have you given up, and figured, "ooh what the hell, we going to die togiether, i have nobody to impress"?
I actually do take care of how I look and dress up just for him during the weekends. Not really a pressure...but I guess its for both of us that I try to look/feel good.
Do you still try to keep yourself looking good to impress your s/o, or have you given up, and figured, "ooh what the hell, we going to die togiether, i have nobody to impress"?
Times surely have changed with regard to this....I see it in the grocery stores, walking down the streets and everywhere. Women who run around in those dang pajama things with their hair up in a barrett looking like they just got up. NOW...I ask you...who in their right mind goes out in public in FREAKIN' PAJAMAS??? I do keep myself up but only because I would not want anyone to see me with no makeup and pajamas on..good grief. I feel better when I am put together properly...it has nothing to do with my husband because he simply doesn't care one way or the other...although he would have a COW if I were to go out in P.J.'s.
It isn't just older women with S.O's who are going out in public looking nasty...younger women are doing this as well. Last weekend, my husband and I were on our way to pick our car up at the dealership. We saw a group of young teen girls walking all of them barefoot and all of them with these huge t-shirts on that covered the shorts they were obviously wearing...looked like they were all out in big nightshirts. Either their parents were not at home when they took off like this or their parents didn't care. Unreal.
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I maintain appearances for myself. For one thing, people treat you differently by your appearance. If I'm out and about in shorts and a tee I notice the difference as opposed to being all duded up in a suit. Not that I walk around dressed to impress all the time, but wear some clean clothes that fit you well, run an iron over them, and practice some grooming, and it will go a long way.
You also have to consider how much better someone esle is going to start looking to your S.O. if you choose to let yourself go. If your S.O. is keeping up appearances, you should at least do the best you can for them as well. Otherwise don't gripe when their eyes start to wander.
Times surely have changed with regard to this....I see it in the grocery stores, walking down the streets and everywhere. Women who run around in those dang pajama things with their hair up in a barrett looking like they just got up. NOW...I ask you...who in their right mind goes out in public in FREAKIN' PAJAMAS??? I do keep myself up but only because I would not want anyone to see me with no makeup and pajamas on..good grief. I feel better when I am put together properly...it has nothing to do with my husband because he simply doesn't care one way or the other...although he would have a COW if I were to go out in P.J.'s.
It isn't just older women with S.O's who are going out in public looking nasty...younger women are doing this as well. Last weekend, my husband and I were on our way to pick our car up at the dealership. We saw a group of young teen girls walking all of them barefoot and all of them with these huge t-shirts on that covered the shorts they were obviously wearing...looked like they were all out in big nightshirts. Either their parents were not at home when they took off like this or their parents didn't care. Unreal.
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You know, you're absolutely right. It seems like a lot of people, men and women, think that the wedding ceremony is the freaking finish line. After that, they can wolf down Cheetohs, not exercise, and dress like a slob.
By this, I'm not saying we're supposed to look like fitness freaks or models. Far from it. But if you don't respect yourself and your spouse to look moderately desireable, then don't be surprised when he or she goes wandering.
Just the other night, my wife was having her girls' night and several of her friends mentioned that I was attractive. She just thought that was great.
Especially because if you aren't deep into a relationship it's quite possible you will be back out into the dating world eventually which, let's face it, puts a premium on looks.
Actually, current gf has taken up exercise again because I'm always working out and she says she doesn't want me getting hotter than her.
I don't feel pressure to look good for her. I do it for myself. She benefits from it; my hope is that it motivates her to do the same. I've noticed some changes she's made since we've been together, so it's working.
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And some days I'll kick around in my home office or work in the yard or garage, then take the shower and shave before my wife gets home from work. I want to at least look kissable when she walks through the door.
Do you feel lpressure to look good for your SO
