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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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How damaging is it to hear your woman (or man, I guess) whom you've been with for many years, tell you she doesn't think anyone else would want you? Is it enough for you to walk out over? Cheat over? How would you handle it?
I know a very sweet guy--and this is how he really is with everyone, family included. I think it's a nice-guy syndrome thing.
I'll tell you one thing, she's walking on dangerous ground if that's what she really thinks.
How damaging is it to hear your woman (or man, I guess) whom you've been with for many years, tell you she doesn't think anyone else would want you? Is it enough for you to walk out over? Cheat over? How would you handle it?
I know a very sweet guy--and this is how he really is with everyone, family included. I think it's a nice-guy syndrome thing.
I'll tell you one thing, she's walking on dangerous ground if that's what she really thinks.
It's a very damaging statement to make and it's made by someone who is scared they're losing. I have a friend whose ex would say this to her all the time. Still tries to now that they're divorced (she just deletes his messages now but we all know what they say).
Sadly, she's had a bad string of relationships. So those messages come back to haunt her.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by Ivorytickler
It's a very damaging statement to make and it's made by someone who is scared they're losing. I have a friend whose ex would say this to her all the time. Still tries to now that they're divorced (she just deletes his messages now but we all know what they say).
Sadly, she's had a bad string of relationships. So those messages come back to haunt her.
Sad. Maybe she's buying into it.
My brothers, when they were younger, used to say this to their women and I knew it was going to cost them their relationships. But what about when you're married? How long can one put up with it. I saw a pic of my friend and I could see such sadness in his eyes that I've never seen before.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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It already has damaged his self-esteem and confidence. I can tell by the things he says. He's never been like this. I don't care if I'm on 20-something years of marriage, if my husband did this to me and wouldn't stop, I'd have to cut him loose. It makes me sad that he's so sad. I know he really loves her still but why go on like this? Why torture yourself? I didn't tell him that, I don't want to encourage him to give up on his marriage so I'm at a loss for words. What do you say to someone?
He is obviuosly reaching out to you for your input, if he is telling you what nasty words are coming out of her mouth. I would tell him how you feel about this. Just because you are giving your honest opinion to a friend, does not necessarily mean that you will put a strain on their marriage.
Sounds like she is doing that enough.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by yankeegirl313
He is obviuosly reaching out to you for your input, if he is telling you what nasty words are coming out of her mouth. I would tell him how you feel about this. Just because you are giving your honest opinion to a friend, does not necessarily mean that you will put a strain on their marriage.
Sounds like she is doing that enough.
I guess you're right. Someone else said I should stay out of it or she might blame me. I have mixed feelings about it but I can't stand to see him this way. Thanks for the input.
I guess you're right. Someone else said I should stay out of it or she might blame me. I have mixed feelings about it but I can't stand to see him this way. Thanks for the input.
I think you should tell him how you feel.
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