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Hi everyone, so I've posted a few times here & this is my 2nd part to my original post: Living with the 'Rents...so it's getting close to summer time & I will be @ home for about a month...ok so here's the thing, I no longer have a bedroom & it drives me nuts. I came home to be w/ my family for Easter & I realize how similar I am to my mom...but also how different we are (I'm a neat freak, she is highly disorganized)...there is never any food here because my brothers eat EVERYTHING the same day my mom gets groceries...ugh,
I just don't know if I need to live here after I graduate from college, even though my mom is trying to convince me to save some $$, I've never had my own apartment (I live in upperclassmen dorms in my university). Having independence & then having to go back to becoming "dependent" really sucks doesn't it?
Why should she have to move out. It's practical to stay with your parents- it saves money, there's a sense of community albeit not always a "sane" place. I think in this country parents are so quick to push kids out- often times before they are ready. Sorry for the tangent. But...Stay as long as you can- paying rent and mortgage is no joke... Lots of people now wish they parents to go back home to now when they are going through foreclosure.
Living with parents after high school only works for so long. Eventually you have to leave the nest just to get some god damn privacy. The parents constantly monitoring your behavior will drive you nuts!
Seriously, you can't bring home a guy without them questioning it like crazy. You can't come home drunk without them asking hundreds of questions. You lose a lot of privacy and freedoms when you live with parents.
The only benefits is the low rent, that is it!
I would say spending the money for at least a studio or 1 bedroom is well worth the money just by the fact that you get to have freedom and privacy.
Hi everyone, so I've posted a few times here & this is my 2nd part to my original post: Living with the 'Rents...so it's getting close to summer time & I will be @ home for about a month...ok so here's the thing, I no longer have a bedroom & it drives me nuts. I came home to be w/ my family for Easter & I realize how similar I am to my mom...but also how different we are (I'm a neat freak, she is highly disorganized)...there is never any food here because my brothers eat EVERYTHING the same day my mom gets groceries...ugh,
I just don't know if I need to live here after I graduate from college, even though my mom is trying to convince me to save some $$, I've never had my own apartment (I live in upperclassmen dorms in my university). Having independence & then having to go back to becoming "dependent" really sucks doesn't it?
Well, if all you're gonna do is ****** ****** ****** like you do here, I suppose your parents may not want you there.
Why should she have to move out. It's practical to stay with your parents- it saves money, there's a sense of community albeit not always a "sane" place. I think in this country parents are so quick to push kids out- often times before they are ready. Sorry for the tangent. But...Stay as long as you can- paying rent and mortgage is no joke... Lots of people now wish they parents to go back home to now when they are going through foreclosure.
In other words, suck more money out of one's parents rather than stand on one's own two feet.
Look, adulthood has to begin sometime. She already said that they had turned her old bedroom into something else. She already said that she doesn't feel comfortable living with her folks. Don't get me wrong. If a true disaster hits, such as the loss of a job or health problems, the parents should always be a place to which she can turn. But a parent does the child no favors by continuing her dependence on them. As the saying goes, Don't cripple your children by making their lives easy.
The OP is a fully grown adult. She has a degree, she has the ability to make a living. She should feel a moral obligation to stop being a child and be her own person. Otherwise she remains an adolescent who just happens to have a college degree.
If an adult child (I mean one who is 22/23+) is living with his or her parents, the costs need to be shared equally. There's nothing wrong with it as long as the kid and the parents are OK with it (I personally wouldn't be) and it's really none of anyone else's business. That said, it needs to be a situation that benefits the parent(s) just as much as the child.
Chan, IIRC you mentioned that your family is from a country/culture where children live with parents until marriage. I understand that this is the way it is generally done in some other countries. You have to decide whether you want to live that life or the American life.
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