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I know him very well. And because of this forum, we talk about a lot of these thread topics. There is also no reason for him to hide his inner thoughts from me. I think that it's also because not only is his mind not in the gutter, most women that he sees and encounters just aren't attractive to him as potential mates. Things like being too skinny (like being size 2), wearing too much makeup or perfume, high heels, sorority sister types, Legally Blonde types just annoy him. Two years ago, he was out on a work assignment in Los Angeles with a bunch of guys. They all went to some night club. He wasn't happy going and complained to me about the Asian women with the "raccoon eyes." I was puzzled at the expression. It turned out that they were just using a lot of eyeliner. There is no porn on his computer. The only message boards he is on are related to motorsports and tuning. He only reads the technical sections and is never in the lounge areas. If I walk in upon in unexpectedly, he is looking at classified ads for cars, bikes and parts or watching videos of cars and bikes. As to sexy stuff, it was me that send him links to the scantily clad women in red dancing around and on an Alfa Romeo sportscar at a recent Geneva car show. He wasn't very impressed with their bodies and dancing moves, but I figured that the guys he works with would be more amused with the video.
Otherwise, I would be concerned about letting him loose around the MIT campus as he really admires smart geeky women.
What he does check out and do double takes on are nice sports cars and dirt bikes on the roads. Or if he hears fighter jets or helicopters flying overheard, then he gets truly distracted. Having sex with random women is just not something he is interested in thinking about.
However he does think about me a lot. He has a great memory for everything we've done together since we first met.
First of all, this wasn't about your man specifically, although I am so glad you have so much faith in him. It's, well, touching............
My only point was that you can't expect every man, or most men, to have eyes only for the one they're with. The only thing you can expect is for them not to act on it if you are in a monogamous relationship.
And if you are so close to him and he to you, why are you even entertaining the thought of him looking at anyone as a "potential mate?"
I look at women all the time, but I never appraise them in that manner. I wouldn't do that unless I didn't have a mate to begin with.
My only point was that you can't expect every man, or most men, to have eyes only for the one they're with. The only thing you can expect is for them not to act on it if you are in a monogamous relationship.
I don't think so. Most men I've been with have had eyes only for me for as long as we were together (unless the big age difference was responsible for that...) and I wouldn't bother with anything other than that in the future. After all, you're supposed to be reaching new highs, not new lows.
some just lie about it better than others I guess.
I wouldn't agree with you, either. Lying while talking is possible, no doubt; faking body language - not so much, IMO. I pay attention to more details than I'd even like to and that's just not something I'd miss if I'm present. If it's done in an unnoticeable way, it's fine with me. It's not like I walk through life with shut eyes after all.
Why do men always have to look at other women all the time? They can be happily married, or in a relationship and still feel the need to check out other women. I just don't get it! A Man can have a perfectly beautiful women, but yet have wondering eyes.
And it doesn't make the wife's or girlfriends feel good at all, so why do majority of men do it? If it was me..I guess I would be upset about it..considering I am the jealous type. And most men I know always say, don't worry about it because some men just can't help it, it's in their nature. Anybody out there have any thoughts to share?
Men are aroused at seeing things.
Women are aroused at the feelings they get.
So if you see something you may look. It's natural.
Kinda like when a man drives down the road and sees a really hot car that is for sale. He wants to check it out. Not that he could ever afford that car and some of you women would probably say, "Why even stop then?"
It's all about dreams and fantasies.
Tell me you have never had the radio on and got a feeling back from a song of an old boyfriend. Someone you had fond memories of. It's a passing thought or feeling.
I wouldn't agree with you, either. Lying while talking is possible, no doubt; faking body language - not so much, IMO. I pay attention to more details than I'd even like to and that's just not something I'd miss if I'm present. If it's done in an unnoticeable way, it's fine with me. It's not like I walk through life with shut eyes after all.
I think most straight men notice attractive women; however, only the clueless ones are obvious about it. It's advantageous for even a single guy to be able to conceal his reaction to an attractive woman. A guy whose tongue falls out and eyes roll into the back of his head whenever a nice "rack" (sorry ... had to say that in reference to another thread) passes by appears moronic in most situations. I'd say it's the rare, rare (straight) man who doesn't take note though when a nice looking woman passes by.
One more thing ... sorry Miu, I'm not picking on you, but you crack me up with your assertions that your bf *never* looks at other women, not ever .. why, he tells you so! lol ... it reminds me of this thing I saw on t.v. once. This couple was in therapy (for sex related problems) and the therapist asked the husband if he masturbated. The wife cut in anxiously and answered for the husband: of course not! He has no reason to do that. Uh huh. Suuure.
As a matter of respect to my wife, I try to never make it obvious when I ntoice an attractive woman... in her presence or outside of it, but yeah, when I see an Angelina Jolie look alike in the supermarket, I do kind of notice that.
One more thing ... sorry Miu, I'm not picking on you, but you crack me up with your assertions that your bf *never* looks at other women, not ever .. why, he tells you so! lol ... it reminds me of this thing I saw on t.v. once. This couple was in therapy (for sex related problems) and the therapist asked the husband if he masturbated. The wife cut in anxiously and answered for the husband: of course not! He has no reason to do that. Uh huh. Suuure.
As a matter of respect to my wife, I try to never make it obvious when I ntoice an attractive woman... in her presence or outside of it, but yeah, when I see an Angelina Jolie look alike in the supermarket, I do kind of notice that.
I'd worry about my husband if he DIDN'T notice a pretty woman
I'd worry about my husband if he DIDN'T notice a pretty woman
I agree. Well, I'm not saying men are blind; neither am I. However it was ever done, it's never bothered me and that's all that matters.
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Suuure.
