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First of all, let me start by saying I wasn't expecting a gift from my husband (I realize that I am not HIS mother). In fact, I hardly ever get a gift for anything (birthdays, anniversary, xmas, etc.)...I've learned to accept the fact (after 15 years) that he is extremely cheap and unthoughtful.
Anyway, I did get breakfast in bed (mostly arranged by the kids). The only thing I asked for was for help around the house today (laundry and cleaning up). When I asked Husband for about the 5th time (in a rather exasperated tone), he went ballistic on me. Basically telling asking me why he should have to do anything because, according to him, I don't ever do anything around the house anyway! Mind you I ABSOLUTELY DO EVERYTHING around here!!!
I just had to vent as I can accept no gift and even no acknowledgement, but to be insulted like that on MOTHER"S DAY really made me mad!!!
Your fault. By your own admission, you've gone on for years without insisting on anyone sharing the work, why should it be any different on mother's day?
Either put up with what you've made for yourself, or change it. Having a tantrum about it won't fix anything.
You know I appreciate my mother as much as anyone else. However, Mother's Day is a greeting card holiday. What started out with the best of intentions didn't take long to get commercialized like Christmas and Halloween or any other holiday. So why let your spouses words cut a little deeper just because it's Mother's Day? If he's selfish and you know he's been this way for 15 years, then there's no surprises. I think we get too sentimental and allow our feelings to get hurt a little deeper just because of an argument that takes place on a Hallmark Holiday. Suicides are highest on Christmas, because we think no one should be alone on such a sacred day. So it's ok to be alone and hungry the other 364 days of the year? People should love and appreciate their mothers all year long, not because some TV commercial lays a guilt trip on you for not following the herd.
It's easy for everyone else to say, divorce isn't that simple, and not the answer to every problem. She would end up supporting three kids and doing everything....my suggestion? Stop doing any and all laundry, cooking and cleaning for a week and watch the place fall apart. This way you can tell your husband that since he thinks you do nothing around the house, you decided to do just that..nothing..and see how he likes it. As soon as he's gone for work and the kids are gone for school, go out with friends, go to the gym, go for a walk, hell get a massage, mani, pedi,..do the things for yourself noone else would think to give you as a gift for mother's day (like a day at the spa!). Maybe some attitudes will change then.
It's easy for everyone else to say, divorce isn't that simple, and not the answer to every problem. She would end up supporting three kids and doing everything....my suggestion? Stop doing any and all laundry, cooking and cleaning for a week and watch the place fall apart. This way you can tell your husband that since he thinks you do nothing around the house, you decided to do just that..nothing..and see how he likes it. As soon as he's gone for work and the kids are gone for school, go out with friends, go to the gym, go for a walk, hell get a massage, mani, pedi,..do the things for yourself noone else would think to give you as a gift for mother's day (like a day at the spa!). Maybe some attitudes will change then.
Most people do not respond well to blackmail or passive-aggressive behaviors.
Most people do not respond well to blackmail or passive-aggressive behaviors.
I was going to ask, why people suggest these mom's operate from spite? You can be good to yourself without hurting others. Remember, people treat you the way you allow them. You can share your expectations with your spouse without nagging. You also have other options besides divorce. If you don't learn anything from a relationship and just opt for divorce, you'll bring the same problems into the next relationship.
First of all, let me start by saying I wasn't expecting a gift from my husband (I realize that I am not HIS mother). In fact, I hardly ever get a gift for anything (birthdays, anniversary, xmas, etc.)...I've learned to accept the fact (after 15 years) that he is extremely cheap and unthoughtful.
Anyway, I did get breakfast in bed (mostly arranged by the kids). The only thing I asked for was for help around the house today (laundry and cleaning up). When I asked Husband for about the 5th time (in a rather exasperated tone), he went ballistic on me. Basically telling asking me why he should have to do anything because, according to him, I don't ever do anything around the house anyway! Mind you I ABSOLUTELY DO EVERYTHING around here!!!
I just had to vent as I can accept no gift and even no acknowledgement, but to be insulted like that on MOTHER"S DAY really made me mad!!!
Waitaminute...he got mad because you asked him to do something? If he thinks you don't do anything anyway, and he isnt doing anything...how is anything getting done? If he thinks he does everything then why'd you have to ask him to do anything in the first place? *head starts spinning*
Uhm. I got confused. Anyway, sorry the ingrate ruined the day. At least your kids did something nice.
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