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What I meant by maturity is during the break-up. Will they blow up and create a hostile relationship? Or can they maintain a friendly relationship with their ex? If they are mature, even with frustration and hurt feelings they can still work together.
People who break up stop hanging out because they CAN stop hanging out. If a couple at work breaks up, they still have to spend time together. I know on the surface this can seem like a bad thing, but if they were mature in their break up and if they are emotionally stable and professional, they can maintain a professional attitude with their ex.
In general, everyone who thinks it's a bad idea to date a co-worker assumes that these relationships are doomed. That's a big assumption, one that I do not share.
I was involved in one before. I wouldn't suggest it if you don't like everyone in your business. I'm a very private person and so was he. We TRIED to keep our relationship under wraps, but it was difficult to do when people would see us talking in the hallways and going to lunch together all the time. It also seemed like a bunch of women would PURPOSELY throw themselves at him just to try to egg me on, too. It was funny because no one was even thinkin' about him until "I" started being seen talking to him and going out to lunch with him and stuff, ALL THE TIME. I hated it. Unfortunately, our relationship didn't last, but we were able to end it cordially, which is a blessing, because I know some office romances that did NOT end cordially, and it would get UGLY sometimes at work. That's another thing you have to think about. If you break up, then what? I know a girl, who went as far as quitting her job after her office romance ended badly. It was just too difficult having to see him and deal with him every day.
My husband and I met at work and had an office affair. We've been married for 16 years now. I think it stands to reason that some end badly and others don't.
My brother met his wife at work. She was his secretary. Happily married 5 yrs now and have a daughter. I think the key is to keep your business under wraps. Don't go to lunch every day so the whole office knows your business. You can meet at work but take care of your dating outside of work!
My husband had an affair with the HR Manager. They have to keep it secret, and I'm sure they still do. I was married 24 years, and yes we had a few problems, but nothing that would keep us from fixing it. I love my husband very much, and would take him back. I met my husband at work, but we had different managers and worked in different departments. I'm so devastated and so our my children. Now he wants the OW to meet our children, but I know my youngest son will not. She has three kids and he says he loves her. My question is how do I get him back? Maybe I'm stupid, but I'm a very forgiving person.
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Marriage Ruined by Office Affair
