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a couple weeks ago, as the spring semester was winding down, I got partnered up with a couple cute girls for this heath/wellness project. I didn't think much of it. This is college and cute girls are everywhere. Anyway, we all exchange email addresses to keep in touch with each other. I was responsible for putting together a survey. I attach the file, keep everything project specific, and foward it out to all the group members.
A couple days later, I get a response from one of the cute girls back. She keeps everything project related, double checks on what time we are supposed to meet in the library, and ends her message to me with her name and directly below it "your groupie ".
I don't take the bait. I confirm we are meeting at seven and tell her good luck with whatever computer problems she was experiencing (mentioned in the previous email).
She returns the email once again asking if we are in fact meeting today. I confirm the meeting is for this evening and I'll see you soon. This time I include a at her.
At the meeting, she ends up sitting next to me, but there is absolutely nothing there. No real eye contact even. Maybe she's shy. I dunno. I don't care. I'm not really looking for anything from her anyway.
She misses class the next day, so I send her an email filling her in on what she missed and when we were gunna meet up again. We exchange a couple more emails, all project related, and then I leave her with my number in case she has any more questions since I wont be near a computer the rest of the day. This happens Wednesday.
She texts me Saturday, the day of our second meeting, and keeps it all project related. Small talk is made and I ask her why her parents named her Audray instead of Audrey. We converse a little more and meet up. She sits by me again and there is nothing once again. I think I made her laugh a couple times but other then that, there is absolutely nothing. I text her later that night after our meeting and get cricket chirps. I do the same thing Sunday morning and get cricket chirps again. I can take a hint. I don't text her again.
She texts me later Sunday and asks if I've sent her my finished slide for the project. I tell her no. She texts the same thing monday. I tell her I'm having a beer at my buddy's and that I'll get it to her soon. I see her on my way to the library. She's on the phone (she's always on it). We say hi, I quickly email her the slide and leave. 15 minutes later, I get a text from which slide she was supposed to use and whether or not I was still in the library. I tell her to use the one without the clip art and tell her I'm halfway to Hico (the next town south and close to where I live). Perhaps a better text would have been why do you wanna know, but I was driving. Her response, "oh gee... well be careful." I tell her it's okay, I only had one beer. She continues to ask me if I'm sure the slide I sent her via email is the one I want to use for the project.
Here's where I call her bluff. I figure she's probably just messin with me. I text, "Put the cards on the table hun. I'm leavin in two days. You either like me or you don't." She responds that she is just trying to make sure she is using the right slide. I text "You're funny. It's whatever. Good bye, good night."
She responds with a good night. She texts the next day asking whether or not I have a USB. I don't respond. Nothing is ever said between us again since. Women...
I suppose there was a slight chance she was into me. I mean, I never gave her the slightest hint I was into her other then sending her a small talk text saturday night and sunday around noon. I don't know. Still, what kind of a girl signs off an otherwise project related email as "your groupie =)"? She was either genuinely interested, or the type that likes getting in a guys head. It's whatever though. Summer is here and I'm 200 miles from campus right now anyway. Time to hit the Guadalupe, Lake Travis, and some concerts.
Lawd hem mercy. Leave it alone. Forget about it. I've got a number of reasons behind saying this...send me a note if you are interested. Otherwise, don't waste your time, figuring it out. Why do you care anyway, unless..............you were interested?
I got the point guys. She didn't like me and I didn't play my cards well at all if she indeed did. I'll apollogize, delete her number, any texts from her, and leave it at that. My thought process was other then the "groupie" comment, which I clearly misread, who repeatedly makes sure I sent them the right slide after confirming I did more than once? I made it clear as day as to which slide I wanted included. And if she didn't care anything for me, why'd she throw in the "oh gee... well be careful" when i told her I'd left the library and was half way home? Screw it. I'm the idiot here. Nothing to see here folks.
Eh, I've been there. Man see's what he wants to see sometimes, and even if she was giving off signs that she was interested, you didn't handle it very well with the whole "so you like me or what babe?!" text message. Don't *ever* ask questions like that if you're not sure of the answer.
Am I the only person who finds this creepy and bizarre?
I cringe the think that there are many guys in their twenties like this...willing to turn what is obviously innocuous friendliness and coincidence into "coyness" and "game-playing"?
Sounds like male stalkers who wind up killing their female targets because they interpreted the most banal things as "interest" and women's indifference or ignorance as to their initial affections as "cruelty".
Am I the only person who finds this creepy and bizarre?
I cringe the think that there are many guys in their twenties like this...willing to turn what is obviously innocuous friendliness and coincidence into "coyness" and "game-playing"?
Sounds like male stalkers who wind up killing their female targets because they interpreted the most banal things as "interest" and women's indifference or ignorance as to their initial affections as "cruelty".
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I totally facebook stalked the ***** for months.
Just a silly kid who misread the cards. I could see how you could draw that sort of conclusion though. There are some real creepers out there. Hindsight is 20:10.
Just a silly kid who misread the cards. I could see how you could draw that sort of conclusion though. There are some real creepers out there. Hindsight is 20:10.
to the OP: guess you're young so you have yet to figure out how to discern interest from a chic, but you gotta keep in mind (and all us guys fall for this at one point or another), that just because a girl is being friendly/polite, doesn't mean she's romantically interested...
Am I the only person who finds this creepy and bizarre?
I cringe the think that there are many guys in their twenties like this...willing to turn what is obviously innocuous friendliness and coincidence into "coyness" and "game-playing"?
Sounds like male stalkers who wind up killing their female targets because they interpreted the most banal things as "interest" and women's indifference or ignorance as to their initial affections as "cruelty".
I don't think it's creepy or bizarre...I think you need to lighten up. Why is it "cringeworthy" if a guy hits on a girl and she's not interested? The guy just misread something. Things may not have been handled perfectly but it wasn't like he was sitting outside her apartment and being shady.
I totally understand/agree with you if the dude started acting crazy over a girl who never wanted anything to do with him...but he simply tried, failed, and moved on.
that never even occurred to me and makes total sense. i feel pretty stupid now. summer will be fun and I'll chalk this up as a learning experience.
Look, she's the stupid one if she doesn't even know what groupie means! You're better off.
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