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My FIL (father in law) wants to be the gyno at our baby's delivery. I'm very uncomfortable with him seeing my vagina.
How do you draw the line when it comes to who sees your vagina?
I'm no longer a paid stripper & as such I prefer to keep my wares to myself.
Ladies, whom did you allow to see your vagina during childbirth? Also, did you video record that process?
Is it even okay to have your SO see you like that? I imagine the s*x goes south after he has seen you push put 9pounds through your vagina? Miss Loosy-goosy??. On the other hand, I could use his support & I want him to see the birth of our first child but... the s*x not turn off men after they view a woman as a loosy-goosy?
Edit title: Not offended lets say he's disappointed!
I might as well throw this one in here...the lil issue of breastfeeding in public.???
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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Well seems to me the FIL should have a much higher level of respect for you and not even put himself in a position that you have to make a choice. That whole thing sounds very unhealthy going forward...
Well seems to me the FIL should have a much higher level of respect for you and not even put himself in a position that you have to make a choice. That whole thing sounds very unhealthy going forward...
I would think being a medical professional that he'd be sensitive to something like that. I mean being put in any kind of stirrups makes one very vulnerable and is very private. He should get that.
I think who you have as your gyno during delivery is YOUR decision, between you and your SO. As far as having a SO see the process, their opinion should be considered as well. Maybe they don't want to watch the process. My DH didn't want to and he didn't watch. Breast-feeding in public- eh. It doesn't really bother me if done discretely - shirt or blanket covering most of the breast or under covers completely. To just whip it out, IMO, is rude. I think breast feeding is a wonderful and beautiful thing but also think it should be something more intimate between a mother and child. Again, this is just my opinion.
Well seems to me the FIL should have a much higher level of respect for you and not even put himself in a position that you have to make a choice. That whole thing sounds very unhealthy going forward...
For him probbing women's vaginas is just a mechanical job and yet probbing mine is more important because I'm a relative & he's bringing his grandchild to the world!
You know, I just don't have anything to say to this.
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. On the other hand, I could use his support & I want him to see the birth of our first child but... the s*x not turn off men after they view a woman as a loosy-goosy?
I think who you have as your gyno during delivery is YOUR decision, between you and your SO. As far as having a SO see the process, their opinion should be considered as well. Maybe they don't want to watch the process. My DH didn't want to and he didn't watch. Breast-feeding in public- eh. It doesn't really bother me if done discretely - shirt or blanket covering most of the breast or under covers completely. To just whip it out, IMO, is rude. I think breast feeding is a wonderful and beautiful thing but also think it should be something more intimate between a mother and child. Again, this is just my opinion.