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I was direct because he is so shy and I'm through with coyness crap in dating.
So then he calls me and tells me his friend had said he was interested in going & offered to pay for the extra ticket, so he will see if his friend ends up paying to go or not. If not, then he wants me to go with him.
Next time do not offer to help people with their shyness or whatever the problem. If you think too much about what they are thinking and try to see what's going on in their heads, that creates an unnatural place to be for you.
In this case, maybe he wasn't really hinting, maybe you had already labeled him as shy or as wanting things he does not really want, whatever, it doesn't matter.
What should matter to you is whether to say YES or NO when a man asks you to attend a concert, not to infer whether HE wants to invite you or not.
Do yourself a favour and don't team up with guys who can't do as much as launch an invitation properly.
He replied to my email. Now he says he's going to get tix to another show and said not to worry about paying him back.
He didn't even ask me if I was free that night. I replied & asked him if that was an invitation then & told him he was smooth (sarcastically).
IDK....I guess I will go and see how he behaves on a date. I wonder if this is just a maturity issue....I normally date guys a few years older than him.
Did you ask him if you had to pay, is that why he said you didnt have to worry about paying him back? Its an odd comment, if you didnt say anything about money. Unless you are always talking about your money woes with him and he thinks you don't get it that he's inviting you. Its odd.
Next time do not offer to help people with their shyness or whatever the problem. If you think too much about what they are thinking and try to see what's going on in their heads, that creates an unnatural place to be for you.
In this case, maybe he wasn't really hinting, maybe you had already labeled him as shy or as wanting things he does not really want, whatever, it doesn't matter.
What should matter to you is whether to say YES or NO when a man asks you to attend a concert, not to infer whether HE wants to invite you or not.
Do yourself a favour and don't team up with guys who can't do as much as launch an invitation properly.
Well, I did not label him as shy myself (he has made many remarks about his timidity), but I suppose you are right about the invitation thing.
I don't feel I assumed anything, but he is awfully passive-aggressive.
If he had apologized for taking back his ambiguous invite, and asked me to another show, I might have lost the bad taste in my mouth....
Did you ask him if you had to pay, is that why he said you didnt have to worry about paying him back? Its an odd comment, if you didnt say anything about money. Unless you are always talking about your money woes with him and he thinks you don't get it that he's inviting you. Its odd.
I have not said a word about money besides one comment. That comment about my money only came up when were discussing all these bands we'd like to see and I said I was bummed cuz I'm broke right now & could only shell out money for one show (a totally different concert I already got tix for). Maybe he was just reassuring me that he would pay for it?
I have not said a word about money besides one comment. That comment about my money only came up when were discussing all these bands we'd like to see and I said I was bummed cuz I'm broke right now & could only shell out money for one show (a totally different concert I already got tix for). Maybe he was just reassuring me that he would pay for it?
It could be. But since an invitation means you don't pay, I am perplexed as to why he even mentioned it. I hope he e-mails back and lets you know whats going on. Its rather confusing. Like , it almost seems like he is asking you to go as a friend, instead of a date. But you say its romantic.
He called it a date!!!
When I told him he was "smooth" he admitted he was terribly awkward.
I also made him acknowledge it was an invite, and then I told him he was lucky I happened to be free that night.
At least it's a band I really wanted to see .
He called it a date!!!
When I told him he was "smooth" he admitted he was terribly awkward.
I also made him acknowledge it was an invite, and then I told him he was lucky I happened to be free that night.
At least it's a band I really wanted to see .
Its good you guys talked. I was hoping you and him would clarify the situation. Have fun on your date.
When he said "hint hint", you should of asked "are you inviting me?" If the answer is yes, then he pays. All invitations are paid by the invitee. A guy invites you to the movies, he pays. To lunch, he pays. If he doesn't say he's inviting you, then you pay.The mere fact that he called it an "extra ticket" means he's not inviting you.
You could talk to him and say that you were not clear on weather he was inviitng you or simply wanted to sell his extra ticket. If you are confused he might be trying to leave an open in case you don't want to go. Sounds like you need to clear up this matter soon.
I agree just ask him then you will know for sure what he means.
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