Guys: Can you tell when a woman is interested in being approached? (ugly, friend)

[Waynec613]

Originally Posted by NMyTree

I am glad to see a sense of humor is being retained, here

The one woman I dated for a year pinched my ass when she passed by me. I thought that was fairly clear-cut myself.

[NMyTree]

Originally Posted by Waynec613

The one woman I dated for a year pinched my ass when she passed by me. I thought that was fairly clear-cut myself.

I actually had a very funny and rather ......um...let's just say sensuous experience with a long time female friend and how she let me know she wanted to take it out of the Friend relm and into the intimacy relm. But I'd probably get banned for telling it

[Waynec613]

Originally Posted by NMyTree

I actually had a very funny and rather ......um...let's just say sensuous experience with a long time female friend and how she let me know she wanted to take it out of the Friend relm and into the intimacy relm. But I'd probably get banned for telling it

Funny thing is I think women have this giant stigma against it, as they're trying to completely relate as they see things as women perceiving an advance of that nature.

Even if in that case it wasn't a drunk woman I found hot and wished to date, I personally could care less. If it'd had been a 50yr old woman that did it drunkenly, gave me a smile and/or wink I'd just chuckle and possibly walk by her at some point during the evening and say "tease!" in a loud whisper with a smile and a wink.

[JBT1980]

SO if u aprpaoch a women and she gives u no smile right away would it be safe to say get out of dodge??

[cuinlalaland]

Originally Posted by JBT1980

SO if u aprpaoch a women and she gives u no smile right away would it be safe to say get out of dodge??

Not necessarily. Not everyone smiles right away, and like I said very shy girls (with a sizable doze of self-consciousness) are sometimes unsure how to act and don't even think to just smile naturally.

Watch out how you smile too. You don't want a big goofy looking smile if you're trying to show you're attracted to her. A subtle smirk with a hint of mischievousness is way better.

[JR_C]

I have a huge disadvantage since I'm visually impaired. Someone could be sitting 20' away, and I couldn't tell for sure, if she was looking at me, or just in my general direction. And then, even if they're sitting next to me, I still couldn't clearly see these subtle facial expressions some are talking aobut.

[mustang84]

Another thing is if her arms are crossed when you first meet, that usually means she's not interested.

Arm brushing, smiling, tilting of the neck, and eye contact are all positive signs.

I've also noticed that if they have a boyfriend / husband / significant other, they will usually find some way to interject that into the conversation early on (such as "oh, my boyfriend goes skiing there all the time" when talking about your recent trip to Colorado).

[NotARedneck]

Originally Posted by cuinlalaland

I'm talking about before either of you open your mouth. Do you know how to read body language and eyes so you know when a woman is asking you to approach her?

This thread is only of use to the 20 to 30 % of guys - those in the middle - to whom it applies. I've know guys who just assume that all women are interested in being approached and they are nearly always right. She might be engaged and is still interested.

At the other end of the spectrum, there are a lot of guys who have rarely or never seen this behavior and likely will have to wait until they are in their 40s to see it more often.

Originally Posted by cuinlalaland

I've seen a ton of comments recently that suggest a lot of guys on this forum have no idea when a woman is throwing off her "I want you to come over here" signals, so they just randomly hit on women and hope for the best.

By and large, women have a paste on look that they have trained themselves to present to the world. They don't want to miss a golden opportunity and this can often be misinterpreted by the rest. The real hints are more subtle and unless a man sees them a lot, and is rewarded by following them up, he is likely to miss them.

As your last post stated, men who misinterpret them are considered "desperate and creepy".

[cuinlalaland]

Originally Posted by JR_C

I have a huge disadvantage since I'm visually impaired. Someone could be sitting 20' away, and I couldn't tell for sure, if she was looking at me, or just in my general direction. And then, even if they're sitting next to me, I still couldn't clearly see these subtle facial expressions some are talking aobut.

You sound like me without my glasses! I would barely be able to tell if the person sitting next to me is a girl or a guy

How do you handle your disability? Do you try to hide it or do you let everyone within earshot know so they can adjust their behavior to compensate? Girls who might be interested in you definitely need to be aware that many of their subtle signs will go completely unnoticed. Or they could easily just assume you aren't interested.

[cuinlalaland]

Originally Posted by mustang84

I've also noticed that if they have a boyfriend / husband / significant other, they will usually find some way to interject that into the conversation early on (such as "oh, my boyfriend goes skiing there all the time" when talking about your recent trip to Colorado).

Yeah seen that one too, especially when I used to get my hair cut by women at a salon for some reason. Of course then there was that one time when the girl asked if I like to be spanked on the weekends because she hadn't found a new guy since her break up. And I was like: " WTH!? I just came in to get my hair cut, lady!"