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But then, many women on the forum have equated "Friends with benefits" as being the first category - only sex.
I'm just looking for more insight into the nature of committment, and how it colors women's view of relationships. It seems to me that many women would prefer a miserable committment to a happy non-committment.
Does the official status of having "Committed" take priority over the actual day-to-day composition of the relationship?
I think what happens is that men can deal with these types of relationships where there is no real commitment, and women start to develop feelings and have expectations so I think what happens in these situations is the woman usually gets to the point where she pushes for the committment and says what are we doing here???? Not sure if that helps...
Agreed, in fact, one said I'm looking for something serious, why don't you give me a call...actally I texted him and he said when are we gonna do it?? I thought...is it me???
He was probably married like the rest of them.
I had one calling me, and everytime, there was this sound that got louder and louder in the background. When I said, "What the heck is that?" It went away. Never came back. He claimed to not know what it was. I asked if he turned or moved, or if he had had me on a speaker. Nothing, he claimed.
The next time, same thing, and when I pointed it out, the sound was gone. I said, "Okay, this is two times, what are you doing?" He claimed he had no idea. I said, "that's too coincidental that the sound goes away the minute I ask what it is." He said, "Oh, you must be magical and have the power to make it go away." I said, "Bye."
So what would you call it when two people are casual sex partners, do almost everything that couples do, see each other daily, just haven't made a committment to one another?
I think what happens is that men can deal with these types of relationships where there is no real commitment, and women start to develop feelings and have expectations so I think what happens in these situations is the woman usually gets to the point where she pushes for the committment and says what are we doing here???? Not sure if that helps...
Unfortunately we women want our sex with love and men don't seem to need love.
It isn't that we can't go and do sex without love, but we want a partner, not a sex buddy.
But I do know men really don't want marriage. It took me a lifetime to understand and accept that one.
How can it be a relationship? Neither of them care enough to call it one.
How do you know they don't care or how much? What if neither wants a commitment?
There are several reasons why people don't commit. It isn't necessarily because they are selfish or don't care for the other. And there are relationships of all kinds. Two people who are committed to each other are not the only ones capable of having a relationship.
He was probably married like the rest of them.
I had one calling me, and everytime, there was this sound that got louder and louder in the background. When I said, "What the heck is that?" It went away. Never came back. He claimed to not know what it was. I asked if he turned or moved, or if he had had me on a speaker. Nothing, he claimed.
The next time, same thing, and when I pointed it out, the sound was gone. I said, "Okay, this is two times, what are you doing?" He claimed he had no idea. I said, "that's too coincidental that the sound goes away the minute I ask what it is." He said, "Oh, you must be magical and have the power to make it go away." I said, "Bye."
Nah, don't think he's married, he's just 28 and looking for free sex without doing any work whatsoever, pretty typical is what I say...
How do you know they don't care or how much? What if neither wants a commitment?
There are several reasons why people don't commit. It isn't necessarily because they are selfish or don't care for the other. And there are relationships of all kinds. Two people who are committed to each other are not the only ones capable of having a relationship.
When someone cares about someone, they don't want the next person taking them away.
It makes no sense to care about someone, and think they are a real "Find", and then leave the door open so something else can come along.
"Oh gee, I care about you, I really like you, in fact, enough to sleep with you, but...if you meet someone else, go for it...I can't commit to you."
Nah, don't think he's married, he's just 28 and looking for free sex without doing any work whatsoever, pretty typical is what I say...
Yes, I think it is laziness over cheapness. I used to think it was cheapness.
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