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If you meet someone on a dating site, and all you have are emails or phone calls, how can they compliment you?
They could say "You sound like a nice person", but to say "Gosh, you sound like the perfect person for me!" is ridiculous. All they have are words on a page.
An online profile can sometimes provide a pretty good insight into a personality, a lot more sitting at a corner in a bar chatting with a guy. Now you could say one could fake a profile. Sure, just like someone who can be a fake in person. That is where email correspondence comes in. There's a lot that can be drawn about a person with the way they say and do things. The question is, are you willing to spend time to figure that out.
Besides emails, I've also seen an assumption that people online may be cheating. In many cases they do, but they also run the risk of getting caught (especially if they post pictures and proper description), a lot more than a person at a bar or a club. Believe me, I'm a guy, and have seen these things happen right around me.
One shouldn't simply dismiss online communication/experience as being inferior or dangerous. The risks are the same. Caution is good. It is also important to be analytical (but not overly) with the realization that it is possible the other person is having difficulty communicating and may not be the very same in person. It certainly happens the other way around, where people pretend to be something they are not in person, so both ways possible.
An online profile can sometimes provide a pretty good insight into a personality, a lot more sitting at a corner in a bar chatting with a guy. Now you could say one could fake a profile. Sure, just like someone who can be a fake in person. That is where email correspondence comes in. There's a lot that can be drawn about a person with the way they say and do things. The question is, are you willing to spend time to figure that out.
Besides emails, I've also seen an assumption that people online may be cheating. In many cases they do, but they also run the risk of getting caught (especially if they post pictures and proper description), a lot more than a person at a bar or a club. Believe me, I'm a guy, and have seen these things happen right around me.
One shouldn't simply dismiss online communication/experience as being inferior or dangerous. The risks are the same. Caution is good. It is also important to be analytical (but not overly) with the realization that it is possible the other person is having difficulty communicating and may not be the very same in person. It certainly happens the other way around, where people pretend to be something they are not in person, so both ways possible.
An online profile can sometimes provide a pretty good insight into a personality, a lot more sitting at a corner in a bar chatting with a guy. Now you could say one could fake a profile. Sure, just like someone who can be a fake in person. That is where email correspondence comes in. There's a lot that can be drawn about a person with the way they say and do things. The question is, are you willing to spend time to figure that out.
Besides emails, I've also seen an assumption that people online may be cheating. In many cases they do, but they also run the risk of getting caught (especially if they post pictures and proper description), a lot more than a person at a bar or a club. Believe me, I'm a guy, and have seen these things happen right around me.
One shouldn't simply dismiss online communication/experience as being inferior or dangerous. The risks are the same. Caution is good. It is also important to be analytical (but not overly) with the realization that it is possible the other person is having difficulty communicating and may not be the very same in person. It certainly happens the other way around, where people pretend to be something they are not in person, so both ways possible.
Believe me, I am a woman and I have been around these things, to paraphrase you...
I think the risks with online are pretty high. It is very easy for someone to fake or lie. I have had a lot of married men lie to me. Eventually, something came out that made me suspicious. I have had some swear and swear they weren't married, but eventually, it came out that they were.
So, you can be cautious all you want, but some are pretty darn good at lying, since they have had successes with their formulas.
I don't meet anyone in a bar or a club. That's for getting picked up or casual sex. Which is fine if that's what someone wants...
And as far as the marrieds getting caught...they get caught by the person they are trying to deceive. Some are pretty bold and simply don't care.
In those cases, they are usually deceiving two (if not more). And its not just married people, it can be unmarried folks (but in committed relationship) too. I recommend reading people and their behavior before committing self to them. This goes for ladies as well as for guys. Figuring out if there is more than physical attraction because that alone will not help if one is looking for good.
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Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate
So true. I'd say 95% have actually told me up front. There is clearly a market for it. They really don't need to hide it much these days.
I would assume that has always been the case, except that we now have more ways to meet people. Clearly, there are women who buy into their ways, so they will do it, even if success rate is 100:1 or worse. I personally knew someone who was emotionally attached to a married guy and she had her weird reasons which have not helped her stabilize her personal life either.
In those cases, they are usually deceiving two (if not more). And its not just married people, it can be unmarried folks (but in committed relationship) too. I recommend reading people and their behavior before committing self to them. This goes for ladies as well as for guys. Figuring out if there is more than physical attraction because that alone will not help if one is looking for good.
I would assume that has always been the case, except that we now have more ways to meet people. Clearly, there are women who buy into their ways, so they will do it, even if success rate is 100:1 or worse. I personally knew someone who was emotionally attached to a married guy and she had her weird reasons which have not helped her stabilize her personal life either.
I'm a bit older than you, and I have seen much more. Some of what you are telling me goes without saying. I think the whole discussion was trying to rachet a step up from the obvious....
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