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Odd that I have most who don't tell me that upfront, and say they are single....some have even wanted to date.
Men (and women) will say what they feel at a time will work and where they want to go with it. So it doesn't surprise me.
It is also why I feel that it isn't always as cut and dry to see from select words about what a person meant when he/she wrote a certain way. Many women do prefer to be treated "nice" (definitions vary), and in emails via words. I've experienced the other side of it, from being a bit too left brained and logical.
Too gushy and fawning. Kind of clingy. I wouldn't call it a red flag, because he could just be trying too hard, but I don't think it's very attractive.
You're all being too harsh on the guy, I understand his predicament, 3 months ago -before I realized it led to nowhere- I was sending the same kind of messages to a young woman I had "met" here- on USCityData, but then she was the one who initiated the flirting with some very bold messages like "will you come to visit me?"that she was e-mailing me several times and during the 2 first weeks I remained "chill" and didn't buy her stance , but personal circumstances ( traveling, changing my day-to-day life, feeling vulnerable) made me change my attitude towards her and I started being flirty too, telling her I had a crush on her, etc. She then changed her attitude almost immediately, became aloof -"hey you're only a buddy" and e-mailed me less often , and I started feeling bad about it for a while until I realized she was playing fiddle with me, so I stopped writing to her and that was it, she stopped too, proof she was not committed , just playing games....
You're all being too harsh on the guy, I understand his predicament, 3 months ago -before I realized it led to nowhere- I was sending the same kind of messages to a young woman I had "met" here- on USCityData, but then she was the one who initiated the flirting with some very bold messages like "will you come to visit me?"that she was e-mailing me several times and during the 2 first weeks I remained "chill" and didn't buy her stance , but personal circumstances ( traveling, changing my day-to-day life, feeling vulnerable) made me change my attitude towards her and I started being flirty too, telling her I had a crush on her, etc. She then changed her attitude almost immediately, became aloof -"hey you're only a buddy" and e-mailed me less often , and I started feeling bad about it for a while until I realized she was playing fiddle with me, so I stopped writing to her and that was it, she stopped too, proof she was not committed , just playing games....
They're being harsh because some chick played games with you and you played along? What should she have been committed to when you never met? Don't project your poor judgment on my situation.
Had a similiar thing happen to me, HE e-mailed me, I wasn't looking for anything or anyone, we had alot in common. Within a month came the I Love You's, I'm falling for you.......I should have stopped it right then and there. He was married and he told me, but said He'd find a way......yah, sure. Then when HE found out I was talking to other people, he blew his lid, it got very verbal and nasty........I ran, not walked away. He went on to his next victim, don't know if his wife has figured it out yet, but who cares, I'm out of it.
Remember on the internet you can say or be whatever you want. Use caution.
He's coming on so strong because that's the quickest way to get laid. If the girl starts thinking "wow we have a real connection, we're falling in love already" the quicker she is likely to put out.
Men are such scum. Ughhhh
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