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My ex (and this is why we broke up) felt there was nothing wrong with him crusing craigslist's "casual connections" or hitting sites like "Get It On", signing up, and getting "matched". He even went so far as to email the ads to introduce himself, and say he was "a nice guy, disease free". He felt that as long as "nothing physical happened" it wasn't cheating.
Me? I have a problem with it. It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
Yes, there were a few emails I found (on MY laptop) and some photos. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
How do you all feel about this? Was what he did really OK, or normal? Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
You know, this is why my ex and I broke up. The EXACT same thing although when I confronted him about it his excuse was, "I'm just browsing". Uh huh... He did end up cheating on me but I didn't find that part out until after the relationship ended. Your concerns are absolutely validated and good for you for not putting up with it.
From what you wrote he appears to be a d*ck. Sorry but that's what it is.
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Was what he did really OK, or normal?
You don't know the answer to this question? No, it wasn't ok. Guy was looking to see if he could get some on the side.
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Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
No to both questions. You reacted in a appropriate manner. Sure you love the guy. Can't fault you for that. We have all loved someone that may not have deserved our love but you can't beat yourself up over loving some guy who is basically a a*shole.
It's gonna be hard for you b/c of the way you feel about him but don't give into him.
I think admiring beautiful girls on the street is not cheating. I think trying to make contact is cheating. In relation to craigslist, occasionally looking at ads out of curiosity is not cheating. Trying to answer one or placing your own ad is attempting to cheat. Constantly browsing the ads also falls in the attempting to cheat category. In any case it is a sign of a problem in the relationship and you were right to end it.
My ex (and this is why we broke up) felt there was nothing wrong with him crusing craigslist's "casual connections" or hitting sites like "Get It On", signing up, and getting "matched". He even went so far as to email the ads to introduce himself, and say he was "a nice guy, disease free". He felt that as long as "nothing physical happened" it wasn't cheating.
Me? I have a problem with it. It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
Yes, there were a few emails I found (on MY laptop) and some photos. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
How do you all feel about this? Was what he did really OK, or normal? Did I overreact? Did I give up someone I love till my dying day because I'm a prude?
That's never ok and you made the right decision. Good luck in finding someone who isn't a slimeball this time.
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It always felt like I was a stepping stone and he was looking for something better, or different. More sex maybe. And my thought was what if somebody DID get back to him? What would his next step be?
. It really made me feel bad, and since he has a history of cheating, I ended things. I didn't want to know the next step.
