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This is a very very rare example. and although many times there are always common or at least similar factors for infidelity, in cases such as the one you pointed out, there isnt really any emotional commitment on the husband and wife level. its more an arrangement of convenience so it really is a totally different case all together!
Right now we are in the process of trying to fall in love all over again. I know a lot of people would say such a betrayal should never be forgiven but i wanted to see if after all our relationship was worth saving...
And well. I’m finding that it is.
Tasha, it takes a very rare person to forgive that kind of thing. It takes an even stronger person to not only forgive, but also to uphold the love you have for this man and really focus on working things out. For that, I admire you.
From the tone of what you wrote, he surprisingly sounds like a decent guy as well. I mean, it was obviously wrong of him to do what he did, but at the same time, it sounds like he stood up and admitted what he did AND really forced himself to make a change. That's not an easy thing to do.
So now you're both in the process of stumbling along, trying to rebuild your lives after all of this. I see things going one of two ways. Either you two will keep trying, and the past will keep coming back, eventually leading to disaster.. OR.. You'll both learn from this and end up rediscovering the love that brought you two together.
Sometimes, in our greatest moments of weakness, we are reborn and transformed into something greater than we ever thought possible. When that happens, no matter what caused it, it's a beautiful thing.
my husband cheated on me. We are Still together and we are patching things up.
here's my story- About a year ago I find my husband of 4 years kissing a close friend of mine. I confronted him and he admitted that he had slept with her. He swore it was just a moment of weakness and that he was messed up because we were having a lot of problems. Of course I was devastated, I never in my entire life had I felt such pain and betrayal. I went Into a mad fury and swore that I'd hurt him back, I felt like I was going crazy, everyday I found myself in tears, I couldn't function properly. I could tell that my husband was sorry for what he had done, and he was trying to make it up to me but we were still having problems. It was a slow and painful process of healing i think the many arguments and accusations that followed both caused us pain, but slowly we are getting through it.
Right now we are in the process of trying to fall in love all over again. I know a lot of people would say such a betrayal should never be forgiven but i wanted to see if after all our relationship was worth saving...
And well. I’m finding that it is.
With your friend? Ouch, that is really tough to take.
And you were only married four years. This is not a great sign, I'm sorry to say.
Tasha, it takes a very rare person to forgive that kind of thing. It takes an even stronger person to not only forgive, but also to uphold the love you have for this man and really focus on working things out. For that, I admire you.
From the tone of what you wrote, he surprisingly sounds like a decent guy as well. I mean, it was obviously wrong of him to do what he did, but at the same time, it sounds like he stood up and admitted what he did AND really forced himself to make a change. That's not an easy thing to do.
So now you're both in the process of stumbling along, trying to rebuild your lives after all of this. I see things going one of two ways. Either you two will keep trying, and the past will keep coming back, eventually leading to disaster.. OR.. You'll both learn from this and end up rediscovering the love that brought you two together.
Sometimes, in our greatest moments of weakness, we are reborn and transformed into something greater than we ever thought possible. When that happens, no matter what caused it, it's a beautiful thing.
I wish you both the best...
thank you, honestly its hard, we really are just stumbling along, but were getting there. Ireally believe one day (it can never be completely perfect) but we can be just as happy again.
It's wrong. If you don't like the relationship walk. If you care about the relationship work it out but understand that you can not solve a 2 party problem with a 3rd party. There is no excuse.
we got lots of it, infidelity to the job, the marriage, the parents, fiduciary duty of financial institutions, the elected officials to the voters, members to the church parents, buddy games with the kids instead of parenting,
we gota lot of it. when they call us infidels in the mideast these are not wild accusations.
Location: miami, fla. enjoying the relative cool, for now ;)
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it's wrong 100% of the time-if you're not happy, leave first and then find someone else...it's not the fault of the person who's being being cheated on. If there are problems, sexual or other, that can't be worked out, then break up ...cheating is about way more than having sex with someone outside the relationship anyway.
yup maggie I agree with you. if you feel like you need to cheat then it's time to go. cheating is nothing other than the outward manifestation of a weakness in your character. a cheater is a selfish liar and no one likes those type of people, they don't even like themselves much.
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