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There's a guy I know, through mutual friends, who seems to have no problem talking about everything under the sun with anyone who will listen. His finances are a recurring topic. From time to time, I'll hear someone ask about him and they'll say he can't come out because he's broke. I've heard him talk about it as well. It's no secret he is irresponsible with his money, given his age and income.
That isn't something I would make public, but it is his choice. I'd simply say I'm not up to coming out. I wouldn't tell people I'm broke until my next paycheck. Finances are not open for frivilous discussion, in my book.
Someone else's personal issues is also off limits. "I heard Alice is getting a divorce." will usually get a ""Really? I hadn't heard." whether I know about it or not.
My sex life with my SO is another topic off limits. Aside from a playful joke, there are no comparing notes or full reports. The farthest I'll go is to say that it is "healthy" and if it isn't, I won't say anything.
Again, this is casual discussion I'm referring to. I'm a very private person, probably more so than the average bear. But I do have a couple of people I confide in with more. I don't share a lot in general, but there are some things that I feel should not be discussed in length.
My threshold is very low. I try to keep casual topics limited to what the other person (or people) will find appropriate. I am not necessarily bothered by gossip, politics, raunchiness, or just general freakiness.
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I feel the same, I discuss very little with people, even with family. I can count the people I confide in on major issues on one hand. With fingers left over!
You're a very private person. That doesn't mean everyone else is as well. Among friends, I think it's okay to dive a little deeper into personal issues, as your friends can offer great (or not so great)advice.
Depends on who I am talking to. But generally as I get older...the less and less I say anything about anything personal. There are many other things out there in the world to talk about that do not involve me or anyone I know...So I avoid drama and just talk about that kinda stuff. (movies, music, history, wierd facts, ways to save, weightloss, cooking, pets, health, etc etc etc)
Depends. In my case depends how close I am to the person I am talking to. I have a best friend who I will talk to about anything and everything, there are no limits or boundries. Really depends how close you are with the person / people. What you have been through, how long you have known them. How do you know them and how well do you know them.
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Originally Posted by Organized Mess
You're a very private person. That doesn't mean everyone else is as well. Among friends, I think it's okay to dive a little deeper into personal issues, as your friends can offer great (or not so great)advice.
I know my friends. They can't handle their own issues, let alone, mine. LOL Besides, friends can be the biggest gossips.
In person I'm usually very closed off, so rarely anything controversial gets discussed.
However, once I get to know someone, whether it be just a friend or something more, I'm an open book. I'll talk about anything. Being a banker, I love talking finances, and I'm more than open to sharing my secrets of success, including my own financial situation.
I draw the line at having a sexual conversation with a casual acquaintance. That's a side of me that not many people get to hear about, but once they do, I always get...
"You really do have to watch out for the quiet ones!"
It depends on who I'm speaking with. I don't open myself up to co-workers or acquaintences as readily as I would close friends. I'm fairly open with my closest of friends, but they've known me for a long time, so there aren't too many secrets between us. I try to keep my past out of conversations with newer friends. Or at least certain elements of my past that weren't so pleasant. I believe everyone keeps at least 5% of themselves from the rest of the world. Things they will take to the grave with them.
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