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Obviously when you marry someone, you know their appearance will change over time. They'll get wrinkles, gray hair, gain weight, maybe lose their hair. But you accept that cause you know the same thing will happen to you and because you know this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But what happens when one of you grows older much faster than the other? Hopefully, you're not the type who would trade in for a newer model. How would you react, though, if you suddenly woke up 10 years later and you looked 10 years older, but your partner looked 20 years older? I realize people age at different rates for various reasons (genetics, lifestyle, etc.). Whatever the reasons, your partner now looks a lot older than you or the reverse, you look a lot older than your partner but didn't start out that way. How would you handle it?
well after the initial shock, I'd consider all the good qualities my partner has and go on with life...It can happen for real, cancer and lots of other illnesses can age a person terribly...
For me, for example with my stbx the physical appearances werent really that apparent. Sure, he went bald, got a little pouch, lost his butt and got white chicken leggs, but all that happens gradually so those changes just become part of the person I loved and you dont remember them as they were 15 yrs ago, full head of think flowing hair, six pack abs, nice butt and tan muscular leggs.
It is kind of like seeing your children grow up. You know their appearance has changed over the years but they will always be as beautiful in your eyes as the first time you saw them.
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It wouldn't bother me if I was in love with them. I've never really gone by looks. I mean, they've usually been fairly attractive but I wouldn't say gorgeous. Now, if the love had left the relationship, that's another story.
When you marry someone it is not until 'your looks fade.'
People age and can get ill. Many people have partners who get cancer or other illnesses that rob their bodies (and minds) and still stay with them.
To some, that is stupid. To others, that is love.
My aunt is gravely ill. She has diabetes. She lost her eyesight and is now bedridden. My uncle has been with her probably over 50 years...and still continues to...One day my dad said to me, "Aunt So and So used to be a good looking girl." Looking at her, you'd say, "really?" But then again, I have many relatives who were once young and pretty, now who are in their 80s and sickly or just look old.
I think you have to honor your wedding vows. Otherwise why bother getting married if it's just for the good times??
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by GypsySoul22
When you marry someone it is not until 'your looks fade.'
People age and can get ill. Many people have partners who get cancer or other illnesses that rob their bodies (and minds) and still stay with them.
To some, that is stupid. To others, that is love.
My aunt is gravely ill. She has diabetes. She lost her eyesight and is now bedridden. My uncle has been with her probably over 50 years...and still continues to...One day my dad said to me, "Aunt So and So used to be a good looking girl." Looking at her, you'd say, "really?" But then again, I have many relatives who were once young and pretty, now who are in their 80s and sickly or just look old.
I think you have to honor your wedding vows. Otherwise why bother getting married if it's just for the good times??
This is off topic, I know, but I agree. So, when the love leaves, the vows have been broken. Bye-bye.
For me, for example with my stbx the physical appearances werent really that apparent. Sure, he went bald, got a little pouch, lost his butt and got white chicken leggs, but all that happens gradually so those changes just become part of the person I loved and you dont remember them as they were 15 yrs ago, full head of think flowing hair, six pack abs, nice butt and tan muscular leggs.
It is kind of like seeing your children grow up. You know their appearance has changed over the years but they will always be as beautiful in your eyes as the first time you saw them.
Location: miami, fla. enjoying the relative cool, for now ;)
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For me, for example with my stbx the physical appearances werent really that apparent. Sure, he went bald, got a little pouch, lost his butt and got white chicken leggs, but all that happens gradually so those changes just become part of the person I loved and you dont remember them as they were 15 yrs ago, full head of think flowing hair, six pack abs, nice butt and tan muscular leggs.
It is kind of like seeing your children grow up. You know their appearance has changed over the years but they will always be as beautiful in your eyes as the first time you saw them.
the system says I can't appreciate your posts as much as I want to. so here's a +1 for you. great post 2mares.
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Beautifully stated! 
