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Old 08-26-2009, 01:57 PM
 
Location: Omaha
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Why the hell do people ask for advice and pick and choose which advice they agree with. Why do they ignore what they do not want to hear and praise the advice most convenient for them??

Mod's, this isn't meant to be antagonistic, but after browsing these threads today I cannot believe people could be so desperate for advice yet reject logic.

I guess that goes back to the thought that the more people take the more they need? I don't get it...Any thoughts?

This can also include those who seek the obvious advice...and we discussed this before (i.e. I just learned my hubby is a 2 time registered sex offender. Should we still adopt?) <---just an example, and some are THAT obvious.
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Old 08-26-2009, 01:58 PM
 
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Logic is perception based on personal values.

I like to think out loud with people. I don't have to agree with them all. But thats just me.
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Old 08-26-2009, 02:10 PM
 
Location: Toledo
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Why the hell do people ask for advice and pick and choose which advice they agree with. Why do they ignore what they do not want to hear and praise the advice most convenient for them??

Mod's, this isn't meant to be antagonistic, but after browsing these threads today I cannot believe people could be so desperate for advice yet reject logic.

I guess that goes back to the thought that the more people take the more they need? I don't get it...Any thoughts?

This can also include those who seek the obvious advice...and we discussed this before (i.e. I just learned my hubby is a 2 time registered sex offender. Should we still adopt?) <---just an example, and some are THAT obvious.

Most of the time they're just seeking validation, not advice.
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Old 08-26-2009, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Orlando, FL
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Most of the time they're just seeking validation, not advice.
Pretty much.
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Old 08-26-2009, 02:36 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Why the hell do people ask for advice and pick and choose which advice they agree with. Why do they ignore what they do not want to hear and praise the advice most convenient for them??

Mod's, this isn't meant to be antagonistic, but after browsing these threads today I cannot believe people could be so desperate for advice yet reject logic.

I guess that goes back to the thought that the more people take the more they need? I don't get it...Any thoughts?

This can also include those who seek the obvious advice...and we discussed this before (i.e. I just learned my hubby is a 2 time registered sex offender. Should we still adopt?) <---just an example, and some are THAT obvious.



Some people are just idots and no amount of advice will ever change that!
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Old 08-26-2009, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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Well if you don't agree with me that Twinkle Toes should be congratulated on her annivesary, then don't read my thread, hmmmphh
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Old 08-26-2009, 02:39 PM
 
Location: Omaha
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Some people are just idots and no amount of advice will ever change that!
Lol, very insightful.
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Old 08-26-2009, 02:41 PM
 
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I think there are people who ask for advice when they already know what decisions they are going to make. They are just looking for validation...
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Old 08-26-2009, 02:44 PM
 
Location: East Valley, AZ
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Why the hell do people ask for advice and pick and choose which advice they agree with. Why do they ignore what they do not want to hear and praise the advice most convenient for them??

Mod's, this isn't meant to be antagonistic, but after browsing these threads today I cannot believe people could be so desperate for advice yet reject logic.

I guess that goes back to the thought that the more people take the more they need? I don't get it...Any thoughts?

This can also include those who seek the obvious advice...and we discussed this before (i.e. I just learned my hubby is a 2 time registered sex offender. Should we still adopt?) <---just an example, and some are THAT obvious.
I only agree with half of your post, That-Guy. I don't want to hear the other half
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Old 08-26-2009, 03:02 PM
 
Location: SoCal - Sherman Oaks & Woodland Hills
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Why the hell do people ask for advice and pick and choose which advice they agree with. Why do they ignore what they do not want to hear and praise the advice most convenient for them??
God I hate people who do that. Why even bother to come to a forum to ask for advice if you're going to ignore reason? Its like getting all dressed up to go to a dance, but when you get there you wont dance.

Original Poster: "My husband is cheating on me and is physically abusive to me and my kids, his step children. I also think he gave me herpes. What shall I do?"
Reply 1: "Leave him"
Reply 2: "Your health and your childrens' health and lives may be at stake, you should find another place to live asap and/or call the police".
Reply 3: "Thats awful. I saw another post where you say you live in Florida and go boating a lot. But anyways, you should try to work things out with your husband, that is the christian thing to do."
OP only Replies to Reply 3: "Oh its great going out on the boat in the open sea. Its so relaxing. My husband is a really good fisherman as well and we just have a great time. I really dont want to give up boating which I enjoy. I'll try to work things out with my husband. He's just been under stress lately. Thank you".

The only ones worse than them are the ones who ask for advice or start a thread only to never participate in the discussion. Those folks should be banned.
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