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I just got off the phone with one guy I met online. He is 44 and told me that the economy has hit him terribly, so he just moved back in with his parents. Now he is thinking of going back to school to get a degree in nursing or counseling. He asked me if I wanted to meet for coffee. I told him, "I don't really feel a connection but I wish you luck."
I mean, seriously. What woman is going to want to date a man after hearing that hard luck story?
I feel bad for him, but why would I want to date a man his age who is living at home?
Maybe he was just testing you and his name is really Rockefeller...
I would date this guy, but it is probably a better plan that he does not bring this information up on the first date, and let's women get to know him first. But of course, my life is probably as messed up as his, if not more so...So, maybe I am more sympathetic to someone re-working his life. Ironically, he probably belongs to the club "if she would want to date me, she is probably not worth dating". And he would treat me like crap, while continuing to chase after women would be judgemental about him. Just my luck.
So, unless a person has a job, he has no right to companionship?
Unless he can drop $100 bucks on a nice night out then he is not worthy?
Are we assuming this guy is dead broke?
He said he wanted to meet for coffee. So why not go? Secondly, he is trying to get his career life back together either as a nurse or counselor. He has goals, he has a plan.
Why all the hate toward someone just because he doesn't have a huge income right now?
So, unless a person has a job, he has no right to companionship?
Unless he can drop $100 bucks on a nice night out then he is not worthy?
Are we assuming this guy is dead broke?
He said he wanted to meet for coffee. So why not go? Secondly, he is trying to get his career life back together either as a nurse or counselor. He has goals, he has a plan.
Why all the hate toward someone just because he doesn't have a huge income right now?
Point by point:
1.Yes, he has a right for companionship, and I can only express my own point of view and what the preferences are. If I met a man who said that at 44 is broke, unemployed and lives with his parents, I would say to him:
You need to get your life back on track, we can spend time in the park or something, but this will only be on friendly basis. You need to concentrate on work, not dating.
2.There is no hate. At least not from me. I'm sure everyone feels bad for the guy, but that doesn't mean they find him at the moment as a good potential partner.
I also want to point out that there is a certain type of men that I'm attracted to. Not rich, not necessarily well-educated, but I'm attracted to men who can hustle. Who will do anything to make money, even if it's just washing the streets. Even in this horrible economy there are means for making some kind of money. My husband never had any nests to sit on, he worked hundreds of all different types of jobs to make money. There is no excuse to just sit around.
Point by point:
1.Yes, he has a right for companionship, and I can only express my own point of view and what the preferences are. If I met a man who said that at 44 is broke, unemployed and lives with his parents, I would say to him:
You need to get your life back on track, we can spend time in the park or something, but this will only be on friendly basis. You need to concentrate on work, not dating.
2.There is no hate. At least not from me. I'm sure everyone feels bad for the guy, but that doesn't mean they find him at the moment as a good potential partner.
I also want to point out that there is a certain type of men that I'm attracted to. Not rich, not necessarily well-educated, but I'm attracted to men who can hustle. Who will do anything to make money, even if it's just washing the streets. Even in this horrible economy there are means for making some kind of money. My husband never had any nests to sit on, he worked hundreds of all different types of jobs to make money. There is no excuse to just sit around.
Who said he was sitting around? He might be living with his parents to save whatever money he is making. Since the OP said he wanted to go back to school that is highly plausible.
To the OP:
I can understand if he chooses to be unemployed but being laid off can happen to anyone, it's not possible to control that, why hold it against him? He may be a really wonderful person. Are you saying you want a man only for his capacity to materially entertain you?
No wonder the divorce rate is over 50% these days
With unemployment effect of the current recession, likely to last for many years, expect another significant drop in the rate of marriage in the population.
Who said he was sitting around? He might be living with his parents to save whatever money he is making. Since the OP said he wanted to go back to school that is highly plausible.
Amazing, how out of entire post, you picked the last phrase to comment on. I don't know if he is sitting around, It was a general statement, by the way applying for nursing school is too late for this year.
Amazing, how out of entire post, you picked the last phrase to comment on. I don't know if he is sitting around, It was a general statement, by the way applying for nursing school is too late for this year.
Amazing that you'd get offended when I was just stating a different way of looking at it. He could be saving for next year, nursing school is pretty dang expensive, unfortunately.
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