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I was down on my luck for like 8 or 9 months. I could not get a job. I didn't want to move out on my roommate but it got to the point where my parents were paying for my rent or I wasn't paying my share. So I moved home.
About the time this problem arose, I started dating somebody. I think there were certain benefits to this, actually. If we had been working different hours or different days or were busy at different times, we probably wouldn't have made it long at all. Never would have gotten close. As is, my schedule allowed great accomodation and we found lots of time for each other. And he stuck with me through that crap, assured me that I was not the loser that I felt like, and I finally got the job I wanted. And still have the guy too.
So I don't think its necessarily wrong to date while unemployed. It depends....if you put more emphasis on the relationship than on getting back on your feet, that would be a problem. But if you're actively trying to gain employment, there's nothing wrong with bonding with another human being. You can't look for a job 24/7 and you don't have to go to fancy restaurants all the time. There are lots of things people can do together.
I don't get this. That TVSportsGuy asked this same question.
It really sucks that so many people here are so quick to judge. And the funny thing is, if this guy had not told you that story and you had found out another way, you would have been POed that he hid it from you. It's a lose-lose situation for him. At least he's being honest.
At my age, I am not dating any broke men. I don't work my tail off at the gym and wear my high heels so that I can go over to some man's house, sit on his stained couch, and drink Budweisers.
I feel bad for him, but why would I want to date a man his age who is living at home?
Cause he may be a really nice guy, and could turn out to be a the absolute best person for you, if you could look past his current situation. The wheels coming off the economy has left a lot of road kill in the last year or so, and that includes a lot of very good people.
Would you prefer that everyone with a run of bad luck just sequester themselves in their parents basement and withdraw from society, and just suck it up as far as their needs to interact with people?
At my age, I am not dating any broke men. I don't work my tail off at the gym and wear my high heels so that I can go over to some man's house, sit on his stained couch, and drink Budweisers.
I think you will find the kind of person you are looking for...because you are really demonstrating the kind of person you are.
At my age, I am not dating any broke men. I don't work my tail off at the gym and wear my high heels so that I can go over to some man's house, sit on his stained couch, and drink Budweisers.
YOU ARE SO JUDGEMENTAL!! How dare you be so shallow. No wonder you're alone.
I think you will find the kind of person you are looking for...because you are really demonstrating the kind of person you are.
As another woman...I have to say...I agree. You are painting a pretty shallow picture here.
Stained couch??? What the heck does that have to do with being hit by the recession?
My bf got laid off about a month after we started dating. I encouraged him to go back to school. He worked part-time and went to school full-time. About a month or two after he finished school, he found a good paying job even in this horrible economy.
What I would be worried about is if the man is on a paid website and has no job. That seems like a waste of money.
I'm a female btw.
Last edited by Sam82; 08-26-2009 at 09:14 PM..
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At my age, I am not dating any broke men. I don't work my tail off at the gym and wear my high heels so that I can go over to some man's house, sit on his stained couch, and drink Budweisers.
To each their own.
For your sake hope that you never fall into the unemployed situation many broke Americans are in now which is not of their doing or choice.
I don't particularly agree with your thinking, but it's your choice.
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