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Old 08-28-2009, 02:24 PM
 
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Okay, so I'm on "vacation" with my bf and am having a really sucky time. I had to take three days (unpaid) off of work to take this trip, and it's pretty much been a total waste of my time. When I think of vacation, I think relaxing, sleeping, eating, sightseeing, drinking, and having sex...however, this trip has consisted of very little eating, a forced 9 mile hike up a mountain, and my bf taking long naps during the day (and I am an insomniac, so sleeping is hard for me, especially during the middle of the day). And that's it...okay, a little bit of sex, but as we are staying with his family its hard to come by time to ourselves for that or anything else). I am so frustrated. This trip has been absolutely miserable for me. I thought we were coming out here to have fun together, but that really hasn't been the case at all. I guess I am just feeling really let down and disappointed. Oh well. Thanks for listening to me vent. Cannot wait to go home. Tomorrow cannot come fast enough.
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:26 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Okay, so I'm on "vacation" with my bf and am having a really sucky time. I had to take three days (unpaid) off of work to take this trip, and it's pretty much been a total waste of my time. When I think of vacation, I think relaxing, sleeping, eating, sightseeing, drinking, and having sex...however, this trip has consisted of very little eating, a forced 9 mile hike up a mountain, and my bf taking long naps during the day (and I am an insomniac, so sleeping is hard for me, especially during the middle of the day). And that's it...okay, a little bit of sex, but as we are staying with his family its hard to come by time to ourselves for that or anything else). I am so frustrated. This trip has been absolutely miserable for me. I thought we were coming out here to have fun together, but that really hasn't been the case at all. I guess I am just feeling really let down and disappointed. Oh well. Thanks for listening to me vent. Cannot wait to go home. Tomorrow cannot come fast enough.
Consider it a learning experience - now you know a whole lot more about your boyfriend and his preferences. If these don't mesh with yours you can move on and stop wasting his time (and yours)
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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Okay, so I'm on "vacation" with my bf and am having a really sucky time. I had to take three days (unpaid) off of work to take this trip, and it's pretty much been a total waste of my time. When I think of vacation, I think relaxing, sleeping, eating, sightseeing, drinking, and having sex...however, this trip has consisted of very little eating, a forced 9 mile hike up a mountain, and my bf taking long naps during the day (and I am an insomniac, so sleeping is hard for me, especially during the middle of the day). And that's it...okay, a little bit of sex, but as we are staying with his family its hard to come by time to ourselves for that or anything else). I am so frustrated. This trip has been absolutely miserable for me. I thought we were coming out here to have fun together, but that really hasn't been the case at all. I guess I am just feeling really let down and disappointed. Oh well. Thanks for listening to me vent. Cannot wait to go home. Tomorrow cannot come fast enough.
Let it out girl! From now on, you plan your OWN vacations when you have PAID time off and tell your BF to take a hike! (I mean figuratively since he already did, ohh nevermind LOL)

Seriously though, lesson learned, now you know you won't be going on another vacation! Could have been worse (I know, cliche me) but it could have been a two week vacation! How bad would THAT suck???

Anyway, we'll all send you a bill for listening and offering words of wisdom, that should more than make you feel better! LOL
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:30 PM
 
Location: East Valley, AZ
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Next time, bring a "friend" and extra...um, batteries.
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:31 PM
 
Location: Omaha
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That sucks. I've been on a pretty lame trip myself and it's no good. MAke sure the next trip is all about you.
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:35 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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however, this trip has consisted of very little eating, a forced 9 mile hike up a mountain, and my bf taking long naps during the day (and I am an insomniac, so sleeping is hard for me, especially during the middle of the day). And that's it...okay, a little bit of sex
Did you thank him?

Low calorie intake + 650 calories + ??1000??

Excellent cross-performance trainer you have there
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:36 PM
 
Location: Philly
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First question- where is the location of this vaction?

And what led you to believe that you'd be doing everything on your list?

Did you and him discuss what you'd be doing before the trip?

I know some people actually like to relax on their vacation, and if your guy's idea of relaxing is hiking and sleeping, then there's nothing wrong.

Was the vacation for only 3 days? If it's longer, maybe he'll be rested and turn it up for the second half.
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:45 PM
 
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[quote=IZthe411;10501694]First question- where is the location of this vaction?]
Ft Collins, CO area

[And what led you to believe that you'd be doing everything on your list?]
Wasn't expecting to do everything on my list...I don't even have a list. I just thought we'd be spending some time together rather than him sleeping
[Did you and him discuss what you'd be doing before the trip?]
Generally, but obviously not specifically enough
[I know some people actually like to relax on their vacation, and if your guy's idea of relaxing is hiking and sleeping, then there's nothing wrong.]
I want to relax. Going on a 9 mile hike up a mountain at noon is not my idea of relaxing. I'm more of a sip drinks ina hammock and look at the mountains, maybe do a little sightseeing kind of relaxer. I spent 6 years getting my MS in geology, and a forced hike is way too much like work for me to really consider it relaxing.

[Was the vacation for only 3 days? If it's longer, maybe he'll be rested and turn it up for the second half.]
No, the trip ends tomorrow. Thank goodness.
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Missouri
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He is taking long naps during the day? Unless he has the flu, or is under the age of 4 or over the age of 80, I'd say this "vacation" should be a wonderful learning experience that has demonstrated it is time to move on.
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Old 08-28-2009, 02:50 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Doesn't sound like a vacation to me. More like a visit to the relatives! Sorry you had a bad time....he could have gotten the two of you a hotel room (at least then you can have more sex!)
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