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What would you think about being married to someone who was not as smart as you are? Does your husband or wife have the smarts you have? Do they challenge you intellectually?
The reason I ask is many of the women I know tell me they do not want to marry a smart man but someone sexy. (Not that someone can not be both). A number of women at the office was talking about the Men on the TV Show "Lost" and who they most wanted to marry. Was it Jack the smart Doctor? Or Hurley the soft and sweet man-child? Or Sawyer, the brunting, dark (in mood) macho type- who is not so bright. Most of the women wanted to get married to the Macho dark and dangerous Sawyer.
I could be wrong but Sawyer isnt dark. He's light skinned (tanned because of the island) and blonde. Very easy on the eyes.
Anyhow, I find my husband intelectially equal to me and we have a wide range of topics we discuss, with diferent opinions. I would not be able to marry someone that is not inteligent and I believe he wouldn't have either. We do enjoy each others company.
Even though my husband did not attend college he is able to hold his own in any almost any conversation. In fact, the other day at a birthday party, he got cornered by my friend's dad - a research physicist who works with the Dept of Defense on military sono technology. My eyes glazed over pretty quickly as they discussed the "square root of the blah-blah-blah" and "cavitating...on the subs (-marine)".
My friend pulled me aside to apologize for her dad. She said that her dad won't dumb down for anyone (he doesn't know how) and will keep going on even if he gets no response.
I laughed & said, "Do you know what cavitating is? No? Well apparently my husband does and they are getting along just fine!"
DH is my intellectual equal on many subjects but at the same time I trump him when it comes to the arts/classical music and he trumps me on audio technology. We balance each other nicely.
My husband and I couldn't be considered as equal intellectually, but our intellects do compare. His expertise would be in science, and mechanics. Where as mine would be in literature, history and philosophy. I guess we are equal, but in opposite areas. I'm not sure this is great for making a couple closer though, because we have trouble conversing about topics other than our children and day to day family issues. This is why I spend much time on City-Data!
I have a two-year college degree, am well-read, and have LOTS of "life experience". My lovely wife has her Master's plus other specialized education and training. We're fairly evenly matched when it comes to ideaology (as long as "gun control" isn't the topic... ) both love travel, photography and fine dining. She's put up with me for 23 years so I NEVER question her judgement!
If we took an IQ test, I would be "average" and my husband would either be "high average" or a "genius" so intellectually, I would say no, we're not equals. However, I manage the household, pay the bills, get our lives in order and he reads comic books and plays on his Playstation. Go figure!
We do hold wonderful conversation and I believe my DH has both brains and looks!
Yes, I believe hubby and I are intellectual equals. There are things that he is more knowledgeable about than I am and vice versa. We each have our own hobbies, which makes the relationship very interesting.
Absolutely or it would very dull indeed. We have different areas of expertise but our brains are pretty well matched.
We enjoy a healthy exchange of sometimes very varying views and opinions and that is what makes our relationship interesting. We are best friends and though I sometimes feel like slapping him with a wet fish when we have serious disagreement, I would find it very difficult to converse with someone I did not respect intellectually. Most of all he is fun to be with and I have never been bored with him in 18 years which is good !
He is far better than I am though with things like car and DIY stuff. I have butter fingers and am hopeless with manual things.
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My lovely wife has her Master's plus other specialized education and training. We're fairly evenly matched when it comes to ideaology (as long as "gun control" isn't the topic...
