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I am still single.But I don't care whether my prospective wife is more intellecutal or not.
maybe folks tend to just have different ways of thinking,not inferior to the other.
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If we took an IQ test, I would be "average" and my husband would either be "high average" or a "genius" so intellectually, I would say no, we're not equals. However, I manage the household, pay the bills, get our lives in order and he reads comic books and plays on his Playstation. Go figure!
We do hold wonderful conversation and I believe my DH has both brains and looks!
LOLLLLL. That is so funny AND true. My son is like that. He's got a very, very high IQ (of course) but he loves comics, Star Trek, and all kinds of "kid" stuff (and he's 34)!!!
OK for the husband. Mine is not intellectually my equal. He's very, very good with DIY stuff. He's handy but he's not a intellectual. It makes it very difficult to have any kind of conversation where you want a give and take, feedback, different opinion and the why of it. Can't even talk to him about the whole mess with real estate because he doesn't understand one iota. It makes me very angry sometimes (can you tell?). And then sometimes when he's doing something and I ask "what is that" he tells ME, "oh you wouldn't understand". He wished! Besides, I have always worked around "high" intelligence circles and some of it has to have rubbed off !
Also, I don't like anyone who's vocabulary boils down to "you know".
Nope. I don't care who makes how much financially, but the brain power has to be there to have civilized communication. It's not like someone I'm paying at work and training them to do one thing. It's the person you share life with. That's why I'm HERE.
What difference does it make as long as you love and respect each other?
I thought this but then I dated someone I couldn't have conversations with that was not on the same level. I felt really bad because he was a nice person but we had diffenert life experiences over the years that made us who we are today. It made us so different that we couldn't carry on more than a five minute discussion and I got very bored. I didn't think I was better, just different.
My SO now is on the same level and I find that to be very important. I'm not attracted to someone unless they can stimulate my mind.
My husband and I offset each other, where I am smart in certain areas, he is smart in others. I really don't think intellect has anything to do with true love and lasting relationships.
Absolutely, we are equals. My boyfriend before my husband was definitely not and the conversation often stunk if it wasn't about family and such. I love the fact that I can talk to my husband about anything. In fact he's probably a bit more intellectual than I am. Fortunately, he's sexy too.
Absolutely, we are equals. My boyfriend before my husband was definitely not and the conversation often stunk if it wasn't about family and such. I love the fact that I can talk to my husband about anything. In fact he's probably a bit more intellectual than I am. Fortunately, he's sexy too.
I've only had one relationship with someone who wasn't as experienced or smart as me. It gets old explaining the simplist things to a potential partner no matter how well you get along by way of common hobbies. You feel like they wouldn't be there to cover your back in a situation where you'd need them simply out of ignorance of what/how to do anything.
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