is it generally not a good idea to have a 3rd date at someone's house? (dating, movies)
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saw a guy 2x and we have a lot of chemistry. i hear from him daily and really like everything about him so far. we have extremely similar personalities and a lot in common. we are both huge movie buffs and bonded over being more introverted people who like to hang out at home. on our 2nd date (yesterday) he brought up how we have to one of these days watch a bunch of movies together and family guy (lol). today we spoke and i mentioned our movie date which we are having friday (i wish we got to see each other sooner, but we have very opposite schedules). anyway, we havent even kissed yet (just hugs and he puts his arms around me). do men usually figure a woman will "put out" once a date is at a house? we are probably going to first grab dinner or a tequila sunrise and then have a movie marathon. so far the guy has been a complete gentleman.
oh and in case you were wondering since i am moving in june, this guy is planning on leaving the city the same time as me (both of us not 100% set on locations yet). he is just such a great guy, and i get weak in my knees around him. our dates have been super long so far. he took me to dinner yesterday and i was going to give him a ride to his car since i parked closer to the restaurant. when we got in my car, we started talking and then i realized we should just continue our date elsewhere so i suggested coffee. we walked to norm's and spent several more hours talking. i have not had this good of time with someone that i really liked in years.
Personally I wouldn't be comfy with a house date (his or mine) after only two dates. Not to say it's not perfectly acceptable, it just wouldn't feel like enough time for me to feel safe with him. Though I might make an exception depending on how we met as having mutual good friends would make me feel better than if we met at work (which is a step above meeting someone at a bar).
If you feel comfortable with it and comfortable with him, then I say go for it. For the sake of safety, I would suggest you make arrangements with a friend to check in through the evening. If the date is at his place, make sure your friend knows where he lives as well. It may seem silly and extreme but what's a quick phone call to say things are going great?
As for the putting out, why not just ask what his expectations are for the evening?
Good luck and I'm glad to hear things are going so well for you!
Geez...I sure wouldn't ask him his expectations...that sounds a little "off". Nor would I go to his house for a 3rd date. My guess is that things would get a little heated, and most likely (especially with you being "weak in the knees" and all ) will lead to sex. If you are not prepared for that, then I suggest doing something else.
Geez...I sure wouldn't ask him his expectations...that sounds a little "off". Nor would I go to his house for a 3rd date. My guess is that things would get a little heated, and most likely (especially with you being "weak in the knees" and all ) will lead to sex. If you are not prepared for that, then I suggest doing something else.
I agree with this. Also please be careful and make sure someone knows where you are and who you're with.
i dont mean weak in the knees meaning i am turned on by him sexually. i mean it in the sense that i have a good feeling about this guy that it could get serious. he has one of the best personalities of any guy i have ever met, and he just has so many qualities i like and respect (well traveled, educated, close to his family, and old fashion values). is he very nerdy and socially ackward (appeals to me), so i dont really believe he will do anything i dont want him to do. he hasnt even tried to kiss me yet.
is it generally not a good idea to have a 3rd date at someone's house?
Its really tough sometimes to speak in generalities when it comes to dating. But from my own experience, I would definitely have in the back of my mind that having a chick over for movie night at my place would raise my chances of scoring to about 98%.
You need to gauge how you feel about this guy and the connection you've made so far. My guess is that he's thinking that more physical action will be taking place.
saw a guy 2x and we have a lot of chemistry. i hear from him daily and really like everything about him so far. we have extremely similar personalities and a lot in common. we are both huge movie buffs and bonded over being more introverted people who like to hang out at home. on our 2nd date (yesterday) he brought up how we have to one of these days watch a bunch of movies together and family guy (lol). today we spoke and i mentioned our movie date which we are having friday (i wish we got to see each other sooner, but we have very opposite schedules). anyway, we havent even kissed yet (just hugs and he puts his arms around me). do men usually figure a woman will "put out" once a date is at a house? we are probably going to first grab dinner or a tequila sunrise and then have a movie marathon. so far the guy has been a complete gentleman.
oh and in case you were wondering since i am moving in june, this guy is planning on leaving the city the same time as me (both of us not 100% set on locations yet). he is just such a great guy, and i get weak in my knees around him. our dates have been super long so far. he took me to dinner yesterday and i was going to give him a ride to his car since i parked closer to the restaurant. when we got in my car, we started talking and then i realized we should just continue our date elsewhere so i suggested coffee. we walked to norm's and spent several more hours talking. i have not had this good of time with someone that i really liked in years.
Sounds good...but just forewarn you depends on the guy but house dates can lead to other stuff. Watch your alchol in take girl(wink). And be safe. Or simply bring it up that you don't want any hanky panky as of yet.
If you are ready for whatever go to the home. If not pump the brakes and see a movie in the theaters.
Or invite friends.
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) will lead to sex. If you are not prepared for that, then I suggest doing something else.
