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Not every female doctor or lawyer WOULD keep her name, but many would not want to give it up if they thought doing so affected their name recognition in their career/field.
Ideally, I think it's nice when couples share a last name once kids come along (just makes it easier on kids and gives the family a sense of identity), but plenty of professional woman wouldn't agree with me I'm sure
Your first point above, I disagree with....if they are really a great doctor or lawyer, a name change will not matter. Plus, their patients or clients will continue to come to them if they change their last name. What also irks me is when female TV news reporters and anchors on my local TV stations and don't change their name. They think they're some kind of celebrity when the reality is that they're on the news in Scranton/Wilkes-Barre, PA, nobody outside of this small area knows who they are anyways. And, once again, if they're so great at their job or well-known, a name change should not affect their career.
Your last point I agree with 100%. We have enough crap these days with unmarried parents and remarried parents and kids having different last names from the parents...we don't need to add to that because mom refuses to give up her maiden name.
I recall my sister in-law saying to my wife to be you are going to hypenate your name like mine? I got very angry at her and told her to bud out and get lost. She had no right to ask such a question. I told her my mother loved her married name and Cindy had wanted the same since I asked for her hand.
Your first point above, I disagree with....if they are really a great doctor or lawyer, a name change will not matter. Plus, their patients or clients will continue to come to them if they change their last name. What also irks me is when female TV news reporters and anchors on my local TV stations and don't change their name. They think they're some kind of celebrity when the reality is that they're on the news in Scranton/Wilkes-Barre, PA, nobody outside of this small area knows who they are anyways. And, once again, if they're so great at their job or well-known, a name change should not affect their career.
Your last point I agree with 100%. We have enough crap these days with unmarried parents and remarried parents and kids having different last names from the parents...we don't need to add to that because mom refuses to give up her maiden name.
Well I'm just thankful that you're not running the show for marriage/social laws, then!
Your first point above, I disagree with....if they are really a great doctor or lawyer, a name change will not matter. Plus, their patients or clients will continue to come to them if they change their last name. What also irks me is when female TV news reporters and anchors on my local TV stations and don't change their name. They think they're some kind of celebrity when the reality is that they're on the news in Scranton/Wilkes-Barre, PA, nobody outside of this small area knows who they are anyways. And, once again, if they're so great at their job or well-known, a name change should not affect their career.
Your last point I agree with 100%. We have enough crap these days with unmarried parents and remarried parents and kids having different last names from the parents...we don't need to add to that because mom refuses to give up her maiden name.
Try really hard for a minute to put yourself in a woman's shoes. Suppose you were REALLY good at what you do. Maybe you are a master carpenter or you discovered a cure for cancer. EVERYONE in your city and maybe even your state, knows your name. Your name is synonymous with your accomplishments.
Now, suppose after 10-20 years of using that name of yours to further your career and advance yourself financially, someone comes along that you fall in love with, someone you want to spend the rest of your life. Imagine how disheartening it would be to discover their inflexibility regarding you keeping your own name - your brand, so to speak - just because you two got married. Come on, be fair.
A person who has worked hard and accomplished much has the right to keep their good name without being judged a "feminist" for pete's sake If they have slaved to get that phD or MD behind their names, you as their beloved would be selfish to try to take that away from them.
My last name is hyphenated. My dad passed away about four months before I got married and I decided to keep his last name.
My exdh never said he had a problem with it but when Brad Paisley got married and his wife either did the hyphenated or just kept hers, he was all bent out of shape and said it was so stupid.
I imagine he was also talking his true feelings about what I had done as well.
But dag on if he was going to tell me I couldn't. If he were to tell me he wouldn't stand for it he could have kissed me goodbye and that would be that.
And I am so not a feminist. When my kids were young my place was in the home and that is just how it was. No one told me to do it either. It was my choice.
I have no problem with any of the options. My wife took my name.
I know couples where he has his name, she has hers, and the kid has his. I know couples where he has his, she has hers, and the kids have both hyphenated. I know one couple where they both share both names, hyphenated.
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If they have slaved to get that phD or MD behind their names, you as their beloved would be selfish to try to take that away from them.
