Married and Taking His Last Name (personal, issues, reason, serious)
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Just curious. Do you think the tradition of a woman giving up her last name to take her husbands began when women were considered nothing more than a mans property?
Yep, that is the case.
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Originally Posted by IZthe411
Most men won't stand for it. Some don't care, and that's their right, but to me it says a lot about a woman's attitude towards the institution.
Half correct. It's an attitude about the institution when it involves specific types of men, tho, not across the board.
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Originally Posted by McNed
It's funny how some women want all the rights, but none of the responsibilities. The way I look at it, one family has one name, but then that was never an issue in mine.
Want all the rights? You mean the same rights as a man? But, none of the responsibilities? Since when have men (in general) taken on the responsibility of name changing?
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Originally Posted by IZthe411
No, it's the recognition that they are now a new family. That's one of the sacrifices a woman has to deal with. That's what a marriage is all about, right? Sacrifice and compromise.
Why shouldn't the man change his name?
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Originally Posted by IZthe411
Then don't get married if your identity is that important to you. The purpose of marriage is to take two lives and roll them into one. The more identity you want to keep, the more you show that you aren't really into the relationship for the right reasons.
Um, I shouldn't have gotten married, then? Really? We have several people in this thread that have been married/divorced a few times, but the clincher is a matter of names, rather than quality marriages.
A more reasonable approach, imo, is to not assume that any of us know anyone else well enough to determine who should or shouldn't marry. Frankly, it would make more sense to tell the divorced folk in this thread that should have not re-married given past troubles.
I think JET JOCKEY is a wonderful name and she should be allowed to keep it. Even if she has terrible taste in beer.
HEY!
I have fabulous taste in beer! In fact, it was a rule at my old house that beer in an aluminum can wasn't allowed. People who brought can-beer had to sit out on the driveway and drink it.
Then don't get married if your identity is that important to you. The purpose of marriage is to take two lives and roll them into one. The more identity you want to keep, the more you show that you aren't really into the relationship for the right reasons.
So you are of the belief that women who have created an identity in a professional capacity are not worthy of marriage because of not taking a man's last name? That is ridiculous thinking.....
NEWSFLASH TO ALL WOMEN WHO HAVE PAID THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS AND SPENT COUNTLESS HOURS MAKING A NAME FOR YOURSELF IN YOUR PROFESSION....PREPARE TO BE OLD, UNMARRIED MAIDENS WITH 80 CATS IF YOU DO NOT TAKE THE MANS LAST NAME!!!
So you are of the belief that women who have created an identity in a professional capacity are not worthy of marriage because of not taking a man's last name? That is ridiculous thinking.....
NEWSFLASH TO ALL WOMEN WHO HAVE PAID THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS AND SPENT COUNTLESS HOURS MAKING A NAME FOR YOURSELF IN YOUR PROFESSION....PREPARE TO BE OLD, UNMARRIED MAIDENS WITH 80 CATS IF YOU DO NOT TAKE THE MANS LAST NAME!!!
I know. It's pretty silly. I'm grateful that my husband is not this goofy. If he were, of course, he would not be my husband.
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