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I think it is human nature to want to do pleasurable things. Life is hard and sometimes boring, so if I have a chance to interact with these very attractive men I just feel so stimulated and happy. I tell myself that I am going to cut the conversation short but it just does not happen, they are so nice and very interesting to talk to. It is like a drug, I want more. Actually they are not that easy to ignore because they belong to a few clubs I attend and sit next to me in class.
And you claim to be "happily married" by your own words? Are you trying to convince us or yourself?
Location: Moose Jaw, in between the Moose's butt and nose.
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For anyone to expect no attraction at all towards another man/woman, even when one is married, that's just dreaming....
however, to expect someone to show self control (like no contact at all outside of work, for example) when they are married, is perfectly reasonable.
If I really was attracted to someone, even though I was married, (talking in a what if situation), I would almost avoid that person like the plague.....
since I can't mess up my marriage.
It comes down to this, how much do you want your marriage to last?
If you don't care, screw around, it won't last.
If you do care, you will stay away from bad situations. That bull crap about,
'it just happened', is just that-crap. Things don't just happen. Grow up, or
get divorced.
Marriage is not easy. It takes work, by both people.
If you are unwilling to give up being around these three guys that you are attracted to even though you are tempted by them, then, you must not be ready for marriage. If you are really tempted, you would stay away if you loved your husband and valued your marriage.
As a married woman I would be lying if I said there were not men I run into that were very attractive. I find a couple guys I know to be very attractive physically, mentally, personally and spiritually. I am just attracted to them. But I am happily married.
What should I do about my desire to be with these men and spend time with them. When I see them and talk the chemistry is so strong and I feel good. I feel like we could talk for hours. I feel just like I did when I was single and dating and found someone I thought would be Mr. Right.
Nothing has happened so far and I do not expect it will, but I am tempted. You can tell the attraction is mutual.
What have you done when you find someone you are so attracted to? Do you try to avoid them?
You obviously know what you want and that is to continue hanging around these men. You are just looking for support so that you can justify your behavior if you end up sleeping with them.
You are a married adult and you should know best what to do. If not, please end your marriage now and spare your husband the drama and BS.
I make sure never to get something from another man that I should be getting from my husband, whether that is sexual chemistry, emotional support, or flattery. It sounds like you are risking being emotionally unfaithful to your husband and you should stay away to save your marriage. If you cannot be mere friends with these guys then you shouldn't have a relationship with them at all.
Location: Waukegan,il. Approx 40 miles north of Chicago.
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I dont know how old you were when you married. Sounds like you were raised thinking settle down have some children or not. Anyhow, you ever thought their was some truth in soing your wild oats before settling down. If you had. You would be able to look at these guys and except them for being attractive. Sense you didnt experience it, now you have the desire. Wouldnt recomend doing anything behind his back. It will most likely hurt him and you. Ever thought about talking to him about a 3some. You dont have much of a choice. Youre in arock and a hard spot. Either that or just go the rest of your life thinking about it. Jimmy
Location: Waukegan,il. Approx 40 miles north of Chicago.
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brainy
Come on Brainy. Sounds like in your mind, you have already messed around on him. If I knew my partner was being in that position. S would hit the fan. Its obviuous he isent doing it for you. Maybe not just take a look at you but look at your reelationship. Youre defenently not getting what you need. You can disaggree. Sure you will. Thank about it.
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