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Hello everyone! Something has been on my mind lately. Does anyone know a woman that no matter what disrespectful things that her husband does to her she still stays with him? For example I know a lady who has been married to this man for 20 yrs and he is both mentally and physically abusive to her. He has cheated on her alot, come and go for years at a time, have had kids with other women(one with Aids), does drugs, is an alcoholic, doesn't help her with any bills, curses her out and call her fat this an that, controls her house that she is buying and he never wanted any kids so he's never done anything for the 3 she has by him. I told her to leave him several times but she just won't go. This lady also happens to be a Christian woman. I am just trying to see if anyone out there can help me to understand why does she stay with him. Any help at all would be gladly appreciated. Thanks
So sorry to hear this. I don't think anyone should be treated this way.
Why don't you ask her why she puts up with it? My guess would be that he has so demoralized her that she doesn't think she deserves a better life than this.
Thank you for responding Sgoldie. Well I have asked her several times and she get's very defensive . She would say something like it's her choice and for me to pretty much leave it alone. I do agree with you that she probably doesn't feel like she deserves better and that nobody else would want her. I think maybe she would rather deal with him than to be alone. I just don't know what to say to her to convince her otherwise.
Yeah, basically he has brought her self esteem all the way down or threatened to harm her if she leaves. I've known quite a few girls that put up with guys like the one you described; some have even told me that "those are the type of guys they like". There is nothing you can really do to help her, except to keep offering to help.
Well many women are like that. Maybe she depends on him that is why she stays with him? Does she works? Many women stay in a abusive relationship because they got no where to go and are always depending on men for everything. Women should be different by now because we are not in the 50's anymore. This a new century. Women need to wake up and smell the coffee and say that they can be independent, and not stay with him. Other women are just afraid to leave their husbands because they think if they leave then their husbands will hurt them. This is another reason why abused women stay with these types of husbands. There are plenty of groups that are for abused women and they are able to help. If you would to get this information let me know.
I don't think this is gender related. Anyone who let's their spouse take advantage of them, use them, is not in the frame of mind to accept a relationship that involves respect towards one another , as well as the husband/wife. This may stem back to their childhood. I don't buy the religious aspect where one is dominent over the other unless they are raised to be in that position.
Hello everyone! Something has been on my mind lately. Does anyone know a woman that no matter what disrespectful things that her husband does to her she still stays with him? For example I know a lady who has been married to this man for 20 yrs and he is both mentally and physically abusive to her. He has cheated on her alot, come and go for years at a time, have had kids with other women(one with Aids), does drugs, is an alcoholic, doesn't help her with any bills, curses her out and call her fat this an that, controls her house that she is buying and he never wanted any kids so he's never done anything for the 3 she has by him. I told her to leave him several times but she just won't go. This lady also happens to be a Christian woman. I am just trying to see if anyone out there can help me to understand why does she stay with him. Any help at all would be gladly appreciated. Thanks
From what I have seen, many of these women are very passive and this is on top of the fact that they are financially depended on the guy.
If the guy turns out to be a loser, then you wind up in situations as you stated above.
Typically .. the reason is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear is powerful.
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Any help at all would be gladly appreciated. Thanks
