Husband watches TV all evening.. (looking, fighting, dress, nice)
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My husband is depressed and out of work. He watches TV all day and all night and he doesn't come to bed until the middle of the night. Our marriage is dead. I wonder when I'm home why I'm not at work.
I used to sit in the TV room with him just to be together but I can't anymore..my brain is turning to mush...
I hear you.
With us it's my bf constantly on the computer, me usually cooking, washing up or watching tv. We hardly interact all night and 99% of the time I go to bed alone and he stays up on the computer.
I know this may look odd as a comment after 2 years, but what happened with your TV-husband issue? I really need to know I am going through the exact same thing now.
To be more specific, my husband has been without a job for 2 years and a half, the first 2 years I was so supportive, i would do anything to cheer him up and I kept on encouraging him and saying money doesn't matter I have a good job and it was enough to live well for both.
But I guess my excessive support transformed him in a very lazy person, and he watches TV all day, doesn't even bother doing a minor thing at home and not even talk to me when i am back from work, tired while he's been just watching TV all day. I have asked him to take just any job to be able to get out of home but nop ........Mr husband needs to have an offer better than what he had before to accept it.
I believe I have tried everything with him from being the nicest wife on earth to being a demanding one recently, I just need to know how this will end up.
I'd appreciate if you can let me know.
Plan something with him. Anything. Something fun or a home improvement project you want to work on. Negotiate the date and the activity. Then make sure it happens.
You probably have to take the lead here and spearhead the project. Start small with one activity at a time and make sure it's fun and you accomplish something. Life is hard these days and lots of people are depressed. Watching TV is enough to depress almost anyone.
The economy is awful and millions are out of work or underemployed. But try to make home a happy place. That doesn't have to cost much.
I agree about depression. Sometimes when people are afraid of failure, they quit trying. It can be very scary to try absolutely as hard as you can and STILL fail, because what are you supposed to do then? So they hide.
Your words above are so very true, friend Julia...and I've definitely been there; done that...
To OP: I think that many of the posters here have provided excellent suggestions
kelly237...keep trying to get him off that couch...even if it's just to go for a simple walk together...tell him you miss him, and you'd love to do something together, especially now that he has the time....dress real fine, and try to lure him away!!!
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