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So true. Perhaps in 3 or 4 years, she'll come up and say: "Why didn't you tell me?" but they seldom want the truth when they're in lust. You really can't win in this situation.
If I were the girl the player had latched on to, I would totally want to know. Women have to stick together when it comes to men who are users.
Speaking of which, I know a guy who thinks he's real smooth and talks and flirts with all the women he encounters. There's this one girl that likes him more than the others. I haven't said anything to her because maybe he'll settle down. But sometimes I just want to tell her that he's a liar. For now, I won't but, hopefully they will establish a serious relationship, which would make me glad.
This is what I've been going on, but I know that if I were in her place I would feel like a complete idiot for falling for a guy like that when everyone else knew he was just a schmoozer.Maybe it bothers me more because everyone knows. It's like being the last to know that your boyfriend is cheating when all your friends already know...ouch.
Best to stay out of this. Players have been around for a very, very long time. Back when I was first divorced in the 1980's...ooooh that is so long ago. I joined a group called "Parents Without Partners". There was a guy there who was latching on to a different lady every week; had someone different each time at each affair. I watched him operate. He was attractive, charming and knew how to schmooze that is for sure. I also noticed he would hit on the newest "chick" there keep her for a week then poof...on to the next one. THEN it was MY turn...here he is in front of me looking like the Marlboro Man...yup, I went with him, had fun, then totally dumped him on his arse and went off with a nicer, more down to earth guy. This "Player" was so angry with me..never talked to me again. The Player got Played..LOL
If you stay out of this one, chances are if he is playing this girl only three things could possibly happen. First, maybe he really does like her and will have a relationship, but I doubt it. Second, he could dump her for someone else and her ego will get bruised. Last, perhpas she will catch on like I did and this Player will get Played!!
"IT IS BETTER TO REMAIN SILENT AND THOUGHT A FOOL THAN TO SPEAK UP AND REMOVE ALL DOUBT" author unknown....
As a mere acquintance I would stay out of it, let her learn her own lessons. This is how people learn survival skills in terms of relationships. What happens when someone else isn't around to protect her from the wolves? She needs to learn how to spot the warning signs and fend for herself. The only time I'd say you should offer your advice is if she asks for it, or if she was someone close to you like a friend or relative.
This is what I've been going on, but I know that if I were in her place I would feel like a complete idiot for falling for a guy like that when everyone else knew he was just a schmoozer.
Maybe it bothers me more because everyone knows. It's like being the last to know that your boyfriend is cheating when all your friends already know...ouch.
Tell her! Most people would want to know what they're dealing with.
I know a guy who is a total player. He hits on, flirts with, and tries to seduce any woman he encounters. It's slightly disturbing.
There's a new, very sweet, and possibly gullible girl that he has latched on to. She seems to be the only one in a long line of ladies that has taken his bait.
Now, I know his past and his behaviors. He is not a friend, but someone I have known as a social acquaintance for quite a while.
Should I warn this girl of him? My warning would probably be something along the lines of "he's like this with all the girls, don't invest too much."
I hate to see her hurt, but at the same time I don't know if I should tell her what the rest of us already know.
Would you want to know?
yes, I would...most certainly, matter of fact, if you know someone he dated, have her talk to this girl, and here's why.
I dated a man like that bout 7 - 8 years ago...to be honest, I don't know why he dated me, b/c he loved young girls. But he did, and I fell for him, hard....so, there ya go...if someone would have told me, it might have helped, might not have....but at least it may have opened my eyes from being blind as a bat and verified my intuition...believe me, when I met him and while we dated...the alams were going off....
These people can really hurt and harm your heart, to the point that it's a life changing event....so, please, talk to her....b/c players are shreud, sly and know all the moves...this one I dated...recorded all my favorite music...man oh man, he really played the role...then when he got me, he dropped me and he is notorius for dating women that are old enough to be his daughters....
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I'd give her a heads up. Just saying something like..."watch out for this guy he's a real playboy!" almost nonchalantly, hopefully you've gotten her attention at that point and she'll figure the rest out on her own! lol
This is a tricky one...if I were the girl dating this guy I would want to know but I wonder if I would heed the warning... Hard to tell...
you might not heed the warning, but, it surely might wake you up a bit to be more aware? ya think?
I feel the same way
adding, to me, I want friends who are open and honest...it's not always an easy task to be this honest...but you care for her more, then worrying about if she's going to end the friendship b/c of your honesty.
I would also add while telling her, I could be wrong, but I don't think so...but it's your choice, I'm simply telling you now, b/c I care and don't want to see you get hurt...and whatever you decided, I just want you to be happy...but I had to tell you what I see b/c if anything happens, I'd be miserable that I didn't tell you.
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Hard to tell...
