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There's been a lot of conversation lately about where to meet good people for dating.. I decided to make a list to try to give people some ideas.. Feel free to add to it.
Volunteer (Good if you're shy): This is one of the best ways to meet people.. Think about it, you work together with a group of people for the common good. Since you are working together, it's much easier to carry on conversations with people you've never met. I've met a lot of great people through working for Habitat for Humanity, and got quite a few dates as well.
Take a class (Good if you're shy): I once took a creative writing class, and I met more people there than I would have imagined. Find something that interests you, and go for it.
Join a group (Good if you're shy): There are clubs for everything; Photography, Gardening, Acting (both beginner and advanced), Politics, Books, Art, Dance, etc. These are all great places to meet people that share the same interests as you.
Find a hobby: Join a bowling league, or learn to fly airplanes. Once you find a hobby, then it's easy to find people that enjoy doing the same things as you.
Join a Health club or Gym: To me, this one's obvious. But, a word of caution here - when introducing yourself, don't come across as being "creepy", just be natural and let the conversation go where it will.
Try Yoga, Tai Chi, etc: Same as above..
Play a sport (Good if you're shy): I used to be in a co-ed softball legue... It was something set up by local businesses, and ended up being a major thing. Everyone was welcomed there, even if you didn't know the first thing about playing softball. There are groups all over like this. These are people who are just out to have fun, and if you're into sports, find something you enjoy and give it a go.
Run a marathon, ride a bike, go hiking: You get two things out of this, first, you stay healthy, second, you meet great people.
Through friends(Good if you're shy): So, you know someone who knows someone who knows someone.. make friends with that someone.
Go to Museums(Good if you're shy): This is another great place to meet people - just strike up a conversation about an interesting exhibit, or ask a question.
Coffee Shops: Grab a cup of java, sit down, and start talking to the person next to you. It's almost expected.
Cafe's, resturaunts, etc: With this one, you have to use a little caution. If there's a group of people together and they are obviously not interested in outside company, stay away. But, in a lot of these places, especially the locally owned cafe's, it's easy to strike up a conversation with the person sitting close to you.
Libraries/Book stores(Good if you're shy): Ask for a good book suggestion, or suggest a book, or talk about a book, or just say hi.
Art Galleries(Good if you're shy): Same as museums - strike up a conversation about an interesting exhibit.
Block parties, city events, local events, fairs, etc.: Especially in smaller towns.. these are events that are meant to draw people together. I used to love going to Shakespeare in the Park on weekends - there were always a lot of beautiful ladies there that was interested in more than a one night stand.
Local concerts, chamber music, etc: Sit down next to someone you don't know. When the musicians take a break, start up a conversation.
Community Centers(Good if you're shy): There's always something going on at these places, from classes to sports, just ask the attendant for a schedule of events.
The local park: Always a good place to meet people, especially if it's a large park with plenty of things to do.
Buy a dog: Ok, this one is kinda cheesy, but I had to throw it in here. I mean, seriously, how many women have you met that don't like dogs? This works for the women too; if a man is a dog lover, he's bound to come over and say hi.
Go horseback riding: I don't know what it is about this, but everytime that I've ever gone, I've always met someone.
Go to Wine Tastings(Good if you're shy): ...but don't drink too much! This is another one of those places where it's easy to start a conversation. Just ask for an opinion, it's that easy.
Join a singles group(Good if you're shy): It works, but it's not high on my priority list. The few people that I've known that have gone to these things said they usually only meet "desperate" people.. still worth a shot though.
Go Skydiving, hang-gliding, para-sailing, etc: For you adrenaline junkies.. You get to do something that very few people have done, meet interesting people, and have plenty of stories to share.
Go to seminars, conventions, etc.: I'm not talking about those Star-Trek conventions, although you can meet people at those.. I'm talking about more serious things here. I've gone to a few writing seminars and a couple writing conventions and have met decent people there. It just depends on what you're in to.
Join a business association: Great minds think alike, right? I've known a few people that's had luck here, although I would never do it personally.
High school/college reunions: Get in touch with an old flame, or make a new one.
Get a new job, or a part-time job(Good if you're shy): I usually don't reccomend dating people that you work with, but there are times that it's worth it. Even if you don't meet anyone really outstanding, you'll make new friends. (See, through friends)
Travel: Go on a cruise, meet beautiful women, put suntan lotion on them. Ok, maybe it's not quite that easy, but it is easy to meet people while you're abroad. Just remember though, these relationships are usually (very) short term.. but at least you get to see the world!
Cultural events(Good if you're shy): This is another one of those great places - especially if you have a strong cultural background.
Parent organizations, playgrounds, children's museums, etc: Face it, there's a lot of single parents out there, and most of them are good people that have just gone through rough times. Children are always easy to talk about.
Go to church: ...but only if you're religious. I think this one is obvious.
Online(Good if you're shy): Online dating has become so mainstream that it's normal to meet people from the internet. Some people have great luck with this, others don't.. either way, it's worth a try.
There are two big rules here:
Talk to everyone: You can meet someone anywhere you go. Just be yourself, and be friendly. I make it a rule that if someone is within five steps of me, I acknowledge them in some way - be it a simple smile or a grand "hello!". Just by acknowledging someone, it makes them feel comfortable with you, and they'll respond.
Get out and do something that you love: You don't meet people by staying home and watching T.V. all night. If you want to meet someone, you have to do something. If you want to meet someone who's a good match for you, find someone that enjoys doing the same things you do - you're chances at finding a good match are much greater than if you just go places to meet people. We're not talking about one nighters here, we're talking about meeting people for serious relationships.
Volunteer (Good if you're shy): This is one of the best ways to meet people.. Think about it, you work together with a group of people for the common good. Since you are working together, it's much easier to carry on conversations with people you've never met. I've met a lot of great people through working for Habitat for Humanity, and got quite a few dates as well.
This one is good because generally it means you share a common interest, which is always a good way to start!
And as an added bonus, you can go to sleep at night knowing you did something good
Home Depot and Lowe's! Every time I'm in one of those stores, a male hits on me! It's great 'cause there aren't too many females that go in those stores without their hubbies so when a man sees you alone, it's like a kid in a candy store!
Home Depot and Lowe's! Every time I'm in one of those stores, a male hits on me! It's great 'cause there aren't too many females that go in those stores without their hubbies so when a man sees you alone, it's like a kid in a candy store!
And you know what works well in those stores? Stroking their ego by asking questions and pretending you're a helpless female.
*Disclaimer: Not that I've ever done that myself, I just...heard it somewhere.
Home Depot and Lowe's! Every time I'm in one of those stores, a male hits on me! It's great 'cause there aren't too many females that go in those stores without their hubbies so when a man sees you alone, it's like a kid in a candy store!
You're right about that.. There's just something hot about a chick walking around with a Milwaukee 5 piece 33 pocket tool belt, I don't care what ya say..
Now if that was the ONLY thing she was walking around in.. er, with..
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Originally Posted by wigirl920
And you know what works well in those stores? Stroking their ego by asking questions and pretending you're a helpless female.
*Disclaimer: Not that I've ever done that myself, I just...heard it somewhere.
.. Just make sure that you're flirting with someone who's looking at a Makita 12-inch dual slide compound miter saw with laser guide, dual linear ball bearings, and a 15 Amp motor. Ya might want to stay away from those guys walking around with a wussy 8 oz. Ball Pein Hammer - pick up a guy like that and ya might just find out that his hammer swings for the other team, if ya know what I mean.
Oh, and anyone who puts up a disclaimer, especially one that says, "I've never done this myself...." usually has. But hey, it's all good.. See "tool belt" responce above.
.. Just make sure that you're flirting with someone who's looking at a Makita 12-inch dual slide compound miter saw with laser guide, dual linear ball bearings, and a 15 Amp motor. Ya might want to stay away from those guys walking around with a wussy 8 oz. Ball Pein Hammer - pick up a guy like that and ya might just find out that his hammer swings for the other team, if ya know what I mean.
Oh, and anyone who puts up a disclaimer, especially one that says, "I've never done this myself...." usually has. But hey, it's all good.. See "tool belt" responce above.
Good advice UB.
It was a lot easier when I was younger. Older people seem closed off to new friends, though. A lot of people have cliques and will not let you break through.
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