Would you call your spouse an idiot or moron? (girlfriend, friend, romantic)
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Just to clarify, you believe that when someone you love makes a dumb mistake, it is ok to verbally abuse them. Noted.
That's not even remotely what he said. Expressing one's disappointment at a mistake is not tearing that person down. Honestly, it sounds like you may not like this particular poster so you're reading into it what you want too.
Even in jest or in seriousness I wouldn't call my wife an idiot or moron. She was called that many times as a child by her father... a verbally abusive relationship.
Even in jest or in seriousness I wouldn't call my wife an idiot or moron. She was called that many times as a child by her father... a verbally abusive relationship.
^ This. They're not word's to be thrown around AT ALL. Words like "stupid", "idiot", or "moron". Have no place in a marriage.
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Originally Posted by zentropa
Just to clarify, you believe that when someone you love makes a dumb mistake, it is ok to verbally abuse them. Noted.
That ain't what I said and you KNOW it. There are dumb mistakes a reasonable person having an off day can make and mistakes no reasonable person can make. Getting a dent on my car because a cart got away at the store, a dumb mistake any reasonable person can make so I would not rip into them, just ask they take care of fixing the dent. Denying my car because you did not take care to drive carefully through rough weather conditions or were otherwise reckless? Better believe I'm going to tear you a new one because you should know better as an adult.
That ain't what I said and you KNOW it. There are dumb mistakes a reasonable person having an off day can make and mistakes no reasonable person can make. Getting a dent on my car because a cart got away at the store, a dumb mistake any reasonable person can make so I would not rip into them, just ask they take care of fixing the dent. Denying my car because you did not take care to drive carefully through rough weather conditions or were otherwise reckless? Better believe I'm going to tear you a new one because you should know better as an adult.
Ignore her. She always tries to put words in people's mouths.
That ain't what I said and you KNOW it. There are dumb mistakes a reasonable person having an off day can make and mistakes no reasonable person can make. Getting a dent on my car because a cart got away at the store, a dumb mistake any reasonable person can make so I would not rip into them, just ask they take care of fixing the dent. Denying my car because you did not take care to drive carefully through rough weather conditions or were otherwise reckless? Better believe I'm going to tear you a new one because you should know better as an adult.
And you wonder why no one wants to have a relationship with you.
Name calling has no place in a good relationship. I've certainly thought my partner has done some moronic things over the years (and I'm sure, vice-versa) but calling someone hurtful names in anger? No, no thanks.
That ain't what I said and you KNOW it. There are dumb mistakes a reasonable person having an off day can make and mistakes no reasonable person can make. Getting a dent on my car because a cart got away at the store, a dumb mistake any reasonable person can make so I would not rip into them, just ask they take care of fixing the dent. Denying my car because you did not take care to drive carefully through rough weather conditions or were otherwise reckless? Better believe I'm going to tear you a new one because you should know better as an adult.
But why would you "rip into" someone you care about? This thread is about calling someone names. Your response about "not holding back" infers that you would do exactly that to someone you love. And many posters have said that calling abusive names is NEVER appropriate.
Your examples seem fairly harmless too. Everybody at times makes "unreasonable" mistakes. They get into accidents, they forget things, they misjudge the potential consequences of their actions. That is human.
Once, my husband left our 2-year old alone in an idling car at the curb at Reagan National Airport when he went in to pick me up from my flight. Yes it was STUPID and MORONIC. But it never occurred to me to verbally abuse him, although I was appalled.
He had a brain fart. We all have them, sadly.
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most won't put up with.
