Where have all the good black men gone? (cheated, pickup, family)
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I had no father, and I was born a real man. That is no excuse, for fathers, for sons, or for mothers and daughters. You don't need to be taught how to be a father.
No baby is "born a real man" And all research would certainly disagree with your opinion.
Boys have to LEARN how to be men. Most times that works best with a father or other male role model in the picture. (Though sometimes a mother can be strong enough to guide a boy where he needs to be if he's lucky)
"Good Black women" need to spend less time looking for "good Black men" and focus on:
-Having a pleasant attitude
-Managing weight in a healthy range
-Get the financial house in order
-Not expecting "Prince Charming" to pay for trivial things like nail and hair salon visits, cell phone, electric bills because you will reduce yourself to being trivial as well
-Stop following "ghetto" trends in style and fashion - just because its cute in the hood doesn't mean that the rest of us think so
-Building their self esteem (not over compensating for a lack there of with attitude)
-Understand that you can not use sex to buy love - initimacy should be reserved for men who have proven that they are worthy of such special step in a relationship
-Not being overly materialistic (seeking the value of good quality over a quantity of brand name labels)
-Stop dismissing good men as "corny" or "punks" because they aren't "hard" "roughnecks" "thugs"
-Step outside of the current comfort zone and explore new things (skiing, travel, hiking, etc.)
-Learn how to relinquish "control" over each and every situation and let the man in your life to be a man
-Open up to the possibility of finding love with a "Good Man" of any race, this maybe the blessing that God really has planned for you
Signed,
A Really Good Black Woman
I thought the "angry black woman" thing was just a stereotype?
No baby is "born a real man" And all research would certainly disagree with your opinion.
Research?
What is your point?
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Boys have to LEARN how to be men. Most times that works best with a father or other male role model in the picture. (Though sometimes a mother can be strong enough to guide a boy where he needs to be if he's lucky)
Actually, when a boy is 18 he becomes a man. What he learns in terms of how to be a husband or father, and how he learns it can all vary in quality and effectiveness. I had no help in becoming the type of man who functions fairly well in society. I depended on instinct and basic logic. It has worked well, as far as I know.
I had a mother who taught me all she knew, and she was a very, very good role model. But I became a biological man, and a "real" man on my own.
"Good Black women" need to spend less time looking for "good Black men" and focus on:
-Having a pleasant attitude
-Managing weight in a healthy range
-Get the financial house in order
-Not expecting "Prince Charming" to pay for trivial things like nail and hair salon visits, cell phone, electric bills because you will reduce yourself to being trivial as well
-Stop following "ghetto" trends in style and fashion - just because its cute in the hood doesn't mean that the rest of us think so
-Building their self esteem (not over compensating for a lack there of with attitude)
-Understand that you can not use sex to buy love - initimacy should be reserved for men who have proven that they are worthy of such special step in a relationship
-Not being overly materialistic (seeking the value of good quality over a quantity of brand name labels)
-Stop dismissing good men as "corny" or "punks" because they aren't "hard" "roughnecks" "thugs"
-Step outside of the current comfort zone and explore new things (skiing, travel, hiking, etc.)
-Learn how to relinquish "control" over each and every situation and let the man in your life to be a man
-Open up to the possibility of finding love with a "Good Man" of any race, this maybe the blessing that God really has planned for you
Signed,
A Really Good Black Woman
I think I'm in love! But I'm also married Guess it's good thing that I'm in love with my wife!
Actually, when a boy is 18 he becomes a man. What he learns in terms of how to be a husband or father, and how he learns it can all vary in quality and effectiveness. I had no help in becoming the type of man who functions fairly well in society. I depended on instinct and basic logic. It has worked well, as far as I know.
Legally he does become a man but I have rarely seen an 18 YO who is actually a man mentally.
A man (and most women) is not truly fully developed until at least the ages of 24 to 27 years old.
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Where have all the good black men gone?
And all research would certainly disagree with your opinion.
But I'm also married 
Guess it's good thing that I'm in love with my wife! 