Relationships part 2 (wife, how to, women, love)

[MJHPROF]

HI Again: It was announced that Tiger is going to a rehab....good for him....I wish him the very best as it is a beginning to a new life. (maybe)... His mess is in is not an accident it was a train wreck waiting to happen and there is enough pain to last two life times and the scars will be life long. Most people don't know it but they will be having their own train wreck because most people have a messed up life and they don't even realize it. We have not been taught how to create loving relationships but have learned how to survive without love. A trainwreck is a good thing if we can pick up the pieces and get thru the anger and grow but most will not because anger will consume them, it is always the enemy. Then they will create another painful experience. That is where I left off...not only did Tiger have a non-loving empty relationship with his wife but also with himself....he covered this up very well but inside their is a very deep pain that will be addressed in rehab.. We must learn to love ourself before we can love anyone else....and when we are unable to love, we are also flawed emotionally....a major complaint that women have about men is that they are not emotionally available....the reason is they have been taught not to feel......and when we are not in touch with our feelings we are also have a flawed mindset....it looks like this:

Flawed Self + Flawed Emotional + Flawed Mindset =Flawed
Definition Emotional System Thinking
Process

We all live by this formula it is what we have been taught and it allows us to survive the madness that we experience each day, and it produces a lot of suffering and in relationships, well, they end in failure because they become to painful to continue. That is, there isn't the experience of love because we have become roommates and we suffer when we don't have love in our life. It is not an accident that we live in an addictive society. It is not accident that suicide is a problem, it is not an accident that we have a drug problem in our society. Life becomes a painful experience without love and the only thing we know is to mood alter. We have mastered this part of living but it is only a quick fix and the next day the pain continues as we continue to create more suffering. Understanding this, we can learn to create a new and effective way to think and this includes: learning to love our self, learning to be in touch with our feelings and changing our mindset. Of course this is not easy but we can experience an enriched loving experience and to live an enriched life. What do you want? Enough for now, I know this is short but it gives you someting to work on...and if you are in a bad relationship I hope you get out if you see it will not get better...no one should stay in a bad relationship...life is to short for that and on one deserves to live without love.....best wishes

M

[observer53]

Why do you keep posting this stuff in the Arizona (Phoenix) forum? It's got nothing to do with the Phoenix area. Your first post got moved to the Relationships forum. This one probably will be, too.

[cmist]

Originally Posted by observer53

Why do you keep posting this stuff in the Arizona (Phoenix) forum? It's got nothing to do with the Phoenix area. Your first post got moved to the Relationships forum. This one probably will be, too.

Um ya, wrong audience... unless he is trying to reach wealthy golfers?

[azkylady2]

Excuses.... He had a better childhood then a lot of people that learned right from wrong inspite. I think the wife is in a bad relationship and she needs to move on.

[bobman]

rehab is for quitters !!

[yayoi]

Rehab? For what?