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I can honestly say there were times in my life I should have sought help but didn't. Not so much because of stigmatism's but because I chose to tough it out and cope. In hindsight that probably wasn't the best way to cope with some of the tragedies in my life. I agree with another poster who said that a therapist should be a good fit for you. There was one time I was recommened to see a therapist by my First Sgt. She didn't feel I was coping with the loss of a loved one in a healthy manner and encouraged me to at least try. I gave it a shot and it was a train wreck. First and foremost I wasn't open to therapy so I put up a wall from the start. But that could have been resolved had I been in the room with a competant psychologist. Instead I got some flake who tried to compare the dying of a desert flower to that of my loved one. The analogy angered me and I told him off and walked out of his office. So shop around until you find someone you feel is on the same page and is offering you some sound advice that can be gauged over a reasonable amount of time. Nothing wrong with seeking help. When you have a cavity you see a dentist, when you have a rash you see a dermatologist, when you have primary and secondary ego diffusion you see a psychiatrist.
Finding the right person is key. The right therapist will educate you about yourself and enable you to see other aspects of your life. More often than not, we seek counseling on x when y was the actual reason we went. This is really a simplistic answer and may not apply to most people.
This I will say - it has been a positive experience for me.
If you think you need a therapist don't hesitate. People are afraid of therapy because they don't know what kind of relationship between the therapist and them selves will manifest. Some people know ahead of time they want a Guru, teacher or best friend in the therapist. I think all those things are wrong. I think a therapist is an interpreter if you will, They are there to help you understand how you are responding to your environment.
They will find things that are going well in your life and channel those appropriate modes of responses to the things you would like to work on. I had a friend who seem to go through life having experimental relational ships with people. she would let her therapist know how things are going. If a relationship bombed, Oh well , she and her therapist would try another approach. she did seem happy and I believe she was indeed because people liked to be around her.
Why does the client need help in "interpreting" how he or she is responding to the environment. The client already knows he or she is depressed or anxious. Circular thinking seems to be a major problem in therapy and with clients. It's like a trap.
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If you think you need a therapist don't hesitate. People are afraid of therapy because they don't know what kind of relationship between the therapist and them selves will manifest. Some people know ahead of time they want a Guru, teacher or best friend in the therapist. I think all those things are wrong. I think a therapist is an interpreter if you will, They are there to help you understand how you are responding to your environment.
They will find things that are going well in your life and channel those appropriate modes of responses to the things you would like to work on. I had a friend who seem to go through life having experimental relational ships with people. she would let her therapist know how things are going. If a relationship bombed, Oh well , she and her therapist would try another approach. she did seem happy and I believe she was indeed because people liked to be around her.
Why does the client need help in "interpreting" how he or she is responding to the environment. The client already knows he or she is depressed or anxious. Circular thinking seems to be a major problem in therapy and with clients. It's like a trap.
If I have a loss in my family and I am depressed and I know I am depressed. How do I draw the line between my depression and the loss of a loved one? If I just take my pill will it keep me from mourning this loss? but I need my pill for my depression.
I hope to God that you are being flippant. Because you just described circular thinking.
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If I have a loss in my family and I am depressed and I know I am depressed. How do I draw the line between my depression and the loss of a loved one? If I just take my pill will it keep me from mourning this loss? but I need my pill for my depression.
What is your opinion on counseling? Whether it be for marriage or just to help figure out some issues that you had.
Or if you've never been, but know of others that have. Did they have a positive or negative experience from going?
I am almost tempted to go, just to talk to someone about me and my marriage. And also, would like to get some help with my self diagnosed ADD.
I went to one 10 years ago prior to getting divorced. I was not impressed or maybe I chose the wrong counselor. She told me that going to counseling without my husband (at the time) was like a bird trying to fly with one wing...as well as everything I had already discussed with girlfriends...I came out of the session going WTF? I could have charged for that....so...either I'm insanely smart or got the feeling at the time I was insanely stupid.
No worries...I think, in the long run, I'd rather pay my friends (after they've listened way past time necessary).
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